I absolutely love this art by @itsmaeril 🥺❤️
These drawings perfectly illustrate the importance of helping children build their own self-love armor ❤️
While WE can treat children with love and kindness, we can not control every interaction they will have over their life time. There will be bullies, there will be people who don’t love them correctly. And there will even be people who misdirect their anger at them on occasion.
But what we CAN control is this:
We can build children up so they KNOW they’re good enough just as they are. So they KNOW how to love themselves and take care of themselves when the world feels cruel or difficult.
Because the thing about bullying is, if we don’t secretly believe the words, it’s much harder for them to get inside our hearts and minds and hurt our self-esteem.
So please try to give your children the self-love tools you needed when you were young. I promise next generation will thank you ❤️
Big hugs and happy Monday everyone!
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#ad I’m not going to straighten his room (that’s his job!) but I am helping straighten his teeth by getting him @invisalign aligners. Many of you have asked me about Invisalign treatment since finding out we’re using it for our kids. This isn’t just an ad; both my teens and I have used Invisalign clear aligners and we love how convenient they are (plus they work!). I’ve also loved hearing your success stories with the most advanced clear aligner system in the world so thank you for sharing your own experience with all of us. #invisalign#invisalignsmile#teens
Tomorrow is the beginning #TeenCancerAwarenessWeek . We are celebrating all of the amazing teens who inspire us every day with their courageous spirit #teens#heroes#courage#designmyroom ®
This whole week we will be introducing you to some of our amazing teens. We asked them to share their journey, and the impact that Wish Upon a Teen has had in their life💛
“My cancer journey started in July 2019, when I started getting such bad headaches, that eventually I had to go to the emergency room and was admitted to the hospital. The doctors concluded that I had a rare & serious form of post- transplant lymphoproliferative disorder (PTLD). PTLD is a type of lymphoma/leukemia that sometimes is the result of an organ transplant, and in my case, my heart transplant 10 years ago. Shortly after I was diagnosed, I began six months of intense inpatient chemotherapy at C.S. Mott Children’s hospital. It was definitely the most challenging and difficult time in my life. I recall feeling pretty defeated one week and in a lot of discomfort, when my mom told me that Wish Upon A Teen was coming to decorate my room. I wasn’t sure what to expect, but soon after Nancy and Trevor walked in and started talking and taking over with their decorating efforts, I felt a lift in my spirits and before I knew it was laughing and smiling. For the remainder of my long hospital stay, I enjoyed the comforts of the room and brought many of them back with me on my future admissions. I am also a Lions fan and Nancy told me she could help coordinate a leave on pass from the hospital to attend a Lions practice. I was so excited that day to get away from the hospital and have this special experience. I was on cloud nine for days afterwards!
I’m so grateful to Wish Upon a Teen and all the things they did for me to lift my spirits along my cancer journey” #joyisapowerfulmedicine#teenwarriors
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Swipe through for some amazing tips on how you can truly help little ones process and work through their anxiety ✨❤️✨
**and I’m sure most of these would even work for teens and adults too!
The other day I was playing with my hair, twirling it around my fingers. And as soon as I realized what I was doing, my negative internal voice started saying: “Stop that! You look foolish and not smart. People won’t take you seriously as an authority figure!”
This got me thinking: Why was I twirling my hair in the first place? What was the underlying anxiety that was coming out in my hair twirling habit?
And I realized 👉🏼 I was having some very real anxieties about being vulnerable in the meeting I was in!
Look, I’m not saying every habit has a negative emotion underneath that’s being suppressed, but I do wonder how much better my coping skills for my childhood anxieties would have been, if adults had helped me process what was underneath instead of shaming the soothing behavior that resulted as annoying bad habits.
Do you have a great tip for helping children process anxiety? Share in the comments below!
Let’s make this a wonderful space where we can learn and grow together!
Happy Sunday everyone!
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Love the winding stairs and pretty details✨
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Being incorrect. Saying the wrong thing. Looking foolish in front of others.
Just a few things I wish I wasn't so afraid of 😩🙈 And I KNOW I'm not alone!
So many of us are wrapped up in shame when it comes to not knowing everything. Perhaps a teacher belittled you in front of the class when you were young. Or maybe you had a parent who made you feel unsafe whenever you tried new things (i.e. made you constantly second guess your intuition).
My dear friend Marya shared this acronym for SHAME with me and I absolutely love it.
Pretty good right?
Whatever the reason behind your fear, it's important that we try our hardest to raise kids who aren't afraid to be wrong. And this starts with US working on not being afraid to be wrong. Because it’s important for children to not just HEAR our words of encouragement, but to also SEE us put them into action.
One of the things I’m working on is getting more comfortable trying to speak Spanish around native speakers when I barely know the language 🥺 So if you feel foolish or scared to try new things, believe me you’re not alone! I know exactly how scary it can feel for another person to see your imperfections.
But remember that no one came out of the womb knowing everything. Mistakes are a part of being human. And being human requires vulnerability.
So let’s have 2020 be the year we try to remove shame from the idea of being wrong. And in doing so, we’ll help the next generation be excited to raise their hands, be brave enough to ask questions, and be wise enough to know they can always become wiser.
Happy Wednesday everyone! ✨✨
Please note “dumb” is an ableist term. A great substitute is “foolish.”
HEY EVERYONE !!! We are so excited to announce that Beach Clinic is officially a 5-piece! We would love for everyone to meet and welcome Miranda & Adrian into our little family! It’s been such a crazy start into the new year and we do apologize for being on a hiatus these last months or so! Thankfully, due to all of you amazing people we have a few shows lined up. We are kicking things off on January 25th in our hometown, Pico Rivera. We’ll be heading up to Riverside on January 31st and then down to Boyle Heights on February 1st! Who’s excited to hear new music?! Thank you all for being very patient with us. 2020 is going to be the year for Beach Clinic! Come out to our show(s) and dance with us! <3
15 28617 January, 2020
pay attention to the details🥺😍😍😍
3 1105 hours ago
Counting my blessings as this winter break is over. There was a day I didn't know if I'd actually be around to see this stage in my children's life. So as I say goodbye at the airport today sending my son on his way. I will be soaking in one last hug, celebrating and smiling.
This week I learned once again my cancer has returned. What I do with that information and how I let it affect me is the only real choice I have.
Originally I was diagnosed in 1995 while 6 months pregnant with my first born. At that time my husband was deployed. I refused to let them operate on me. Until after my baby was born safely. We didn't need 2 of us sick. So steroid shots started to mature her lungs. She was born a month early and perfect in every way. The following 4 months held 3 surgeries and being locked away for days after drinking radiation.
Fast forward to 2013 and it was back. Surgeries 2013, 2014, 2015, 2016, 2017 and 2018 x 2.
My kids are used to this being our normal. But what that has done is built strength, conversations that we probably would have never had. Death is not a difficult subject in our house. They count their blessings and make memories, not wasting time fighting over the little stuff.
I also use my lessons to make a difference in my patients lives. I adore my job working in an Oncology Clinic. Not wasting lessons and improving the medical journey of other patients.
Hanging on for the ride and choosing to not get stuck being sad.
I normally give myself 1 day to be pissed off and move on. But not this time. For I got to watch my oldest just graduate from the Air Force and fly into this giant world with her shoulders held up high. And my youngest got his first set of final grades at college and he is also flying high and succeeding in school and on the track. So proud of him for getting a first and a second place as a freshman his first college meet.
I am alive and living and watching my kids! And at some point 100% of us will die anyways. So live life to the fullest and make a million memories. (For a chance to have your story featured on our page, tag or message @GrownandFlown!)