Would you rather go with the flow or standing tall against?
What if going with the flow doesn’t make you happy, would you fight for it or let it be while hoping things to fall into place?
I didn’t make any New Year’s Resolution this time like I always did the years before. I fell really hard last year 🙈 totally flat on the floor if I may add.
I remember, I spent years (if not my entire life 🤔) following orders from people who used me for their 🤷🏻♀️ reputations.
Growing up in Asian culture is about finding harmony through balance. Everything is like nature that’s already laid out for you, so there’s no point swimming against the current.
Because in this culture there’s an admiration in unsaid feelings, prolonged patience, and following orders.
Asian parents want the best for their kids, and some of them will stop at nothing to get it. Sometimes this can translate into an overbearing necessity to MEDDLE in their children’s lives. The price of independence is a hard one to pay when you’re in an Asian family, with a traditional Asian parent.
When I moved to Europe 9 years ago, I’ve learned that European culture is about pursuing happiness through individualism. Being able to follow your own personal calling, to be able to do what you want to do is absolutely an incredible freedom.
I remember in the past whenever I tried to speak up for myself, but the Asian side of me would self-criticize for being so brash.
I realize now that being exposed to various cultures meant I could pick and choose what to follow and what to let go. I could cherry pick cards from one deck and combine them with the other to make an ever more powerful one.
So that’s it, I’m entering the New Year in a mode of being absolutely present, swim with the current as well as stand like a rock, 😅 well at least I’m trying.
I believe in fearlessly going after what you want in life is good, even if it breaks status quo. I believe it’s really okay to “disturb the balance” a little, take risks, make a fool of yourself, and fail from time to time.
What do you think? What does your culture teach you? 🤓