“Don’t mind, but is it okay if I ask you why you if you have any marriage plans OR do you plan to get married anytime soon OR why you are not yet married…”
As a single woman in her early 30s, hearing this question from random aunties at family gatherings, from random acquaintances at times, or even one or two prospective suitors is fine. BUT imagine this question being put to you at a Job Interview screening process.
Well, the recruiter already knew how ‘sexist’ a question like this is, otherwise why would someone start by saying “don’t mind” and “is it okay”… it’s like offending someone by just saying “no offense” in the beginning.
It’s not like I’ve not had my share of sexist interview questions before…
“Do you live alone or with parents?”
These seem a bit too commonplace (which in itself should be a big issues #EverydaySexism or #CasualSexism )
Don’t get me wrong… cursory questions of marital status and who all are in your family as a fillers in an interview are okay to a certain extend. But making them a yardstick to judge my candidature along with my professional experience and qualifications, I refuse to accept.
Should I even be offended by such questions? I’m torn between being angry at the gender stereotypes creeping into my workspace and the logical understanding of our current Indian society.
The current social norms where women often leave (or HAVE to leave) their professional ambitions aside once they get married. The expectations of motherhood taking precedence over that big raise and more responsibilities in office. The norm where usually it is a woman who us expected to uproot her professional (and even personal) life immediately (and without questions) to follow her husband wherever he goes.
By - @damini.berry86