“Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you.”
How do we all shrink and play small to “fit in”? I have my moments of expansive Being when on expansive bodies of water, solo, and then, I choose to digress and shrink to “fit in” to feel lovable, to feel like I am not too much, to not have to face my demons regarding fear of success and paradoxically fear of failure, because I recognize my power and my strength and at times , it scares me to know how powerful I am when perfectly aligned with God and my calling. In those moments of pure expansiveness and Being, I feel unstoppable, and then, I allow that to slip away to attract someone who will love me, the little lovable girl who craved a warm love as a child and who repeatedly has settled for small amounts of love rather than an expansive all-empowering love that grows to the very depths of being, that demands vulnerability to the highest degree, and a level of intimacy I dare to desire and will create with the man who dares to go beyond conventional boundaries, to the glorious depths of Being; to the highest highs and the lowest lows, together, recognizing that we are sacred and that our hearts are sacred and need to be held in the highest esteem with the fiercest yet gentlest love. I am ready, to live expansively, to attract the abundance and prosperity that I want and deserve, and to create a love that knows no limits. I choose to live in the moment and to stare fear in the face with unwavering confidence. Why live small when we are meant to live large? . #kayakwendy#bcisbeautiful#explorebc#explorecanada #wildwoman#naturelove #compliments#natureisamazing #lifeisajourney#risesisterrise #thankyounature#lifeisbeautiful #mypassion#kayaking#spreadlove #handpickedkelowna #okanaganlifestyle #explorekelowna#kelownanow #kelownaviews#hellobc #exploreokanagan #livelarge#natureheals#dailyviewbc#okanaganlake#paddlingmixtape#okanaganlife#wondermore#britishcolumbia
“No matter how hurt or disappointed you are in the behaviour of others, it is your willingness to turn anything that someone gives you into a gift that liberates you from the despair of human suffering.”
How many times have I received disappointing behaviour from another? Countless times and usually, I chose to react disapprovingly or even angrily to what I deemed to be unacceptable behaviour because it was unkind, disrespectful, inconsistent, lacked integrity, critical, or judgmental. However, I recognize that my power lies in how I choose to respond to another’s words and behaviours. Regardless of how another treats me, I can choose to travel the high road, and spin every situation into an opportunity for growth and to spread love. Only hurt people hurt people, and often, their mindless and selfish actions are attributed to unresolved pain and suffering in their hearts. It is precisely the most opportune moment to spread more love, not less love. Hearts open and hearts heal, when low vibrational moments are responded to with love and compassion. Habitually, it’s easy to lash out in reaction, but consciously, it’s best to turn every moment into a blessed gift. Try it!! Thank someone for the growth opportunity they provided. Make deep eye contact. Smile genuinely. These moments matter......A LOT. The most powerful act of self-love, is to respond in love and to accept that another’s behaviour is simply a reflection of their inner state, which has nothing to do with you personally. It’s best to never take things personally. Even nature’s stormy skies and cleansing rain is a gift, especially when the rainbow appeared shortly hereafter, over Lake Country, BC.
. #kayakwendy#bcisbeautiful#explorebc#gratitude #wildwoman#naturelove #kelowna#natureisamazing #lifeisajourney#risesisterrise #thankyounature#lifeisbeautiful #lakecountry#explorecanada#spreadlove #handpickedkelowna #okanaganlifestyle #explorekelowna#kelownanow #kelownaviews#hellobc #exploreokanagan #goodtimesoutside#natureheals#dailyviewbc#kelownaliving#lifeisgood#okanaganlife#wondermore#britishcolumbia
“Bursts of joy are as valuable as overwhelming moments of despair. They may not feel the same, but both can be acknowledged as equally deserving of a love that only your heart provides.”
Hiking in Kalamalka Park in the Okanagan Valley, under a warm sun and blue sky with ever-changing clouds, I feel the joy of feeling alive, the joy of being here now surrounded by the unique creation of this desert-like environment. I pay attention to the expansive landscapes and the minute details in the flowers. Short residual tremulations exit my body as I exhale deeply, releasing the sadness from losing a loved one, one who could not love me the way I needed to be loved. And here I am, surrounded by beauty beyond description, cradled by Universal love, as flowers send their intoxicating potent scents, birds soaring above, marmots peering and communing in high-pitched whistles, and clouds swathing the sky in dramatic swooshes and morphing into picture-postcard fluff balls. I love all of me. I found three heart-stones on this walk, each one reminding me that love is here, within my heart, within my soul, and that even the Wendy who releases a wail of despair when she knows innately that in that moment, that the love she’d given was not being returned, she was no less lovable in that moment or any moment. She’d always been love and she always would be. Here, standing at cliff’s edge overlooking Kalamalka Lake, she knew it resoundingly. How could she not?! .
Tag someone who you believe should read this message. . #kayakwendy#bcisbeautiful#explorebc#kayaking #wildwoman#naturelove #kelowna#natureisamazing #lifeisajourney#risesisterrise #thankyounature#lifeisbeautiful #kalamalka#beautyinnature#spreadlove #handpickedkelowna #okanaganlifestyle #explorekelowna#kelownanow #kelownaviews#hellobc #exploreokanagan #goodtimesoutside#natureheals#dailyviewbc#kelownaliving#okanaganlife#wondermore#britishcolumbia
“Let them appreciate your absence if they can’t appreciate your presence.”
One’s environment plays a huge role in one’s well being. I have moved away from a toxic environment, an environment where my presence was not fully appreciated, where I was only allowed to express a limited range of emotions, where speaking my truth was sometimes received with resistance and animosity, and where I couldn’t feel truly safe to be myself at all times. And even though I repeatedly set my healthy personal boundaries and gave consequences for disregarding my healthy personal boundaries, I was shamed for simply speaking my truth and for standing up for myself, being blamed for discord when I was not responsible for the choices made by my former partner which created disharmony and discord, and for standing up for my beliefs in being treated with kindness, respect, and integrity at all times since I deserved to receive what I was giving. I was made to feel invisible at times, being excluded from the decision-making process when the decision being made directly or indirectly affected me. I know I matter and that my voice matters. I know my worth and God was testing my former partner and I. Every opportunity we can grow in love or grow in fear. No matter what, we deserve more love, not less, especially in trying times. I am thankful for all the blessings in my life, including this new chapter that is ripe with new beginnings! I am thankful that I choose not to settle for anything less than I know I deserve. Sending blessings to my former partner! May our time we spent together be received as a valuable opportunity for growth and learning, to awaken consciously and to continue to learn to spread love and light.
. #kayakwendy#bcisbeautiful#explorebc#explorecanada #wildwoman#naturelove #kelowna#natureisamazing #lifeisajourney#risesisterrise #thankyounature#lifeisbeautiful #roam#truth#spreadlove #handpickedkelowna #okanaganlifestyle #explorekelowna#kelownanow #kelownaviews#hellobc #exploreokanagan #goodtimesoutside#natureheals#dailyviewbc#kelownaliving#gratitude#okanaganlife#wondermore#britishcolumbia
“Choose people who want to know what ignites your soul and what hurts you deeply.”
It’s human nature to experience happiness, joy, bliss, euphoria, fulfillment, and ecstasy. It’s also human nature to feel sadness, disappointment, pain, lack of fulfillment, suffering, anger, and despair. One can’t appreciate happiness if one has not experienced sadness. It is impossible to fully love oneself if one does not heal the hurt inner child and the wounded soul. Choose people who recognize that it is human nature to experience all emotions, not just “positive” emotions. People who can’t accept sadness, anger, and other “negative” emotions within themselves, are not ready to be with another. I understand that “hurt people hurt people” because they have not healed themselves and thus can’t fully be there for another. When one feels whole and healed from past hurts and trauma, one can BE there for another and accept that wholeness means feeling and expressing the entire range of emotions that exist. Through extensive time alone, reflecting, I recognize what ignites my soul and also what hurts my soul deeply. We all experience and have experienced hurt and joy. One needs to express with honesty what resonates and does not resonate. No one is a mind reader. Both polarities of emotion are part of being human. One should never be shamed, made to feel guilty, or silenced when feeling pure emotion. People will treat you only one way, the way you allow them to treat you. I made it very clear in my former relationship that I needed to be treated with kindness and respect always but I received lack of kindness and disrespect on numerous occasions, and because I would not tolerate it by responding with a consequence for unacceptable behaviour, disharmony resulted that hurt me deeply since I was giving what I also wanted and deserved to receive consistently. What ignites your soul? What pains you deeply?
. #kayakwendy#bcisbeautiful#explorebc#explorecanada #wildwoman#naturelove #kelowna#natureisamazing #lifeisajourney#risesisterrise #thankyounature#lifeisbeautiful #roam#imagesofcanada#spreadlove #handpickedkelowna #okanaganlifestyle #explorekelowna
“It is a love revolution that begins with you.”
I have learned the power of gratitude and I no longer take anything for granted. Countless times daily, I say “Thank you.” as blessings flow into my life. Gratitude opens my heart to love and magic. I now recognize blessings and serendipitous moments to be gifts from the Universe. I am an avid fan of thrift store shopping because I feel we need to recycle and reuse rather than constantly manufacture new products at an unprecedented rate of production for mind-boggling consumerism. The blessings of affordable abundance which I have been gifted with at thrift stores is miraculous; vegan recipe books which have truly enhanced my state of well-being and that of the planet, clothing, duvets, footwear, camping gear, accessories, furniture, frames, tools, cooking utensils, and more at a fraction of the cost in retail stores. Thus, through thrift store shopping, I have not supported industries where animals were commodified for economic gain. Now, I try my best to do everything in love but it is an eternal learning process. How do I love unconditionally when my soul feels betrayed? How do I move forward when I feel pain and emotional suffering? I find peace in surrendering to what is. I find relief and healing in forgiving myself for trusting others when I needed to trust my intuition. I find love in doing what is best for me, which always includes speaking my truth, genuinely feeling and expressing my emotions which is God’s voice reminding me of what aligns and resonates with my soul and what doesn’t align and resonate with my soul, and doing my best to be there for others through deep listening, open questioning, and giving my time and energy authentically. It was on long solo forays into nature where my spiritual journey was expedited. Love is everywhere if one chooses to believe in the power of love, opening one’s heart to all the blessings bestowed upon oneself. Sending my followers lots of love on this Friday!!
. #kayakwendy#bcisbeautiful#explorebc#explorecanada #wildwoman#naturelove #kelowna#natureisamazing #lifeisajourney#risesisterrise #thankyounature#lifeisbeautiful #roam#seakayaking
10 16524 May, 2019
“She was only here to be loved.”
Her heart was pure, it always was and it still is. As a child, she’d received a rigid, cold-hearted, old European-style love, with a nightly perfunctory good night kiss while being tucked into bed. She didn’t remember getting warm hugs, and couldn’t recall laughter and funny moments, only the criticism, high expectations, judgments, punishments, and comparisons with her two siblings. She felt “loved” as long as she excelled in everything she did; her academic studies, her sports achievements, her creative endeavours, her pleasing others to get the approval and “love” she craved by being a good girl, by being quiet when it was expected, to keep unruly emotions suppressed and obediently tucked away from creating a messy scene. Her heart was highly sensitive. She cried easily but she has hardened somewhat with life’s painful lessons. And yet, she was always here to love and to be loved. Decades later, as a middle-aged adult, she learned that love started with herself and she radically changed her life with quantum change; her beliefs, her self-worth, her relationships, her career, her province of residence, her choices of consumption from ethical vegan food, to eradication of negative media, to living more simply favouring fulfilling experiences outdoors in nature rather than materialism. She chose to follow her passion to nurture her soul and did so regardless of what others thought. She’d been made to believe that she was both too much and paradoxically not enough; too much sensitivity, too much energy, too much crying yet only worthy of love by excelling to please rather than following her heart. But, that all changed. In her darkest moments of despair, feeling unloved and misunderstood, she had the strength and resilience to be there for herself, even when others, including her mother and including her beloved, were not able to love her when she needed to feel their love the most.
. #kayakwendy#bcisbeautiful#explorebc#explorecanada #wildwoman#naturelove #kelowna#natureisamazing #lifeisajourney#risesisterrise #thankyounature#lifeisbeautiful #roam#seakayaking#spreadlove #handpickedkelowna #okanaganlifestyle
“Mother Nature is my true Mother and my true nature.”
Not all mothers are created equally. As a naive innocent child, I believed that I had a good and loving mother. As I grew into a higher state of consciousness, becoming acutely aware and questioning my life to the highest degree, I understood that my mother could not love me the way I needed to be loved; unconditionally, with trust, without favouritism, with kindness, positivity, and consistency. Mother Nature loves me the way I need to be loved. Mother Nature does not betray my trust. Mother Nature does not treat me condescendingly and mock my belief in love, life, and the Divine. Mother Nature bestows continuous blessings of beauty, and life lessons of profound nature. Mother Nature has taught me that I am eternally loved and more powerful than I was ever taught to believe I am by my birth mother. Mother Nature nurtures me unlike my birth mother ever has. She has supported my journey to Self always. She has guided me, healed me, and touched me with a love of boundless faith. Mother Nature allows me to full-heartedly and unapologetically be myself, my full range of authentic emotions displayed in Her presence without judgment, disapproval or approval. Mother Nature gifts me with unlimited altruism, generosity and with authenticity; heart-stones, sea shells, feathers, leaves, driftwood, sunshine, clouds, Universal love, water, reflections, creatures, sand, air, bird songs, tides, stars, moonlight, crystals, plant-based food, artistic patterns, wisdom etc. Mother Nature, thank you for your eternal blessings, love, and healing power. Happy Mother’s Day to every loving mother who is full-heartedly doing her best to truly and consistently be there for her children, teaching them to be the best that they can be! Happy Mother’s Day to my beloved Mother Nature. I am eternally grateful for having You in my life.
. #kayakwendy#bcisbeautiful#explorebc#explorecanada #wildwoman#naturelove #kelowna#natureisamazing #lifeisajourney#risesisterrise #thankyounature#lifeisbeautiful #roam#mothersday2019#spreadlove #handpickedkelowna #okanaganlifestyle #explorekelowna#kelownanow
“If you know who you are with conviction, no one can define your worth, take away your power, bring you down, or say what is possible but you.”
I’ve been told that I’m too much. I’m too emotional. I’m too upset. I’m too sensitive. I’m too passionate. I’m too fearless. I’m too honest, too trusting, and too self-centred. I’m too loud. I’m too driven. I’m too energetic and even too happy!! However, I know that I’m not too much. I’m always enough. What if my perceived “weaknesses” were in fact my “strengths”, guiding me to fully accept myself, all aspects of my being? Peoples’ judgments are only their perceived opinions which has nothing to do with my truth and my perception of myself. Their opinions and judgements are a reflection of their stuff and their need to judge and to criticize. My emotions guide me to feeling aligned with what resonates in my soul. I will never silence my truth to please another at the expense of my well-being. I will never quell the fire in my soul to be more “normal” so I can fit into a small “box” that I’ve outgrown by living expansively and by making others feel comfortable because I reach for the edge where there’s mystery and uncertainty just so that people who live in a secure comfort zone can feel comfortable in my presence. I will live my life unapologetically the way I need to live it. My anger does not make me “crazy” or “unstable”. I know with absolute certainty what I need and deserve and I will no longer allow anyone to trespass these healthy personal boundaries because I know and honour my worth. My anger guides me to my truth where I fully recognize my worth and will never again allow another to diminish it through actions that disrespect me. I am on a journey of truth, discovery, and self-realization and this is uncomfortable for those who are afraid to look into the depths of their being and to be with their darkness and their light, for those who have not dared to go to the depths of their being to discover and embrace all that is within. Many find comfort in security but it comes at a price where aliveness is diminished for predictability and habitual routine.
“We do need others, just not all the time. The tincture of solitude is worth a thousand conversations.”
The more I spend time in solitude, the more it resonates as it is medicine for my soul. When in solitude, I do think of loved ones and friends, and, I am also simply present. I converse with loons, seagulls, bald eagles, and small woodland birds. I thank my campsite daily when I depart, for having provided me with a safe place to be onshore. I send prayers out into the universe and say prayers of gratitude. It all feels natural. It has been multiple days of not seeing another human being and not conversing in any way with another human being until I arrived in Michipicoten yesterday. Ontario’s north shore of Lake S•U•P•E•R•I•O•R has several long remote stretches where there is only pure wilderness. The more I am alone in wilderness and in solitude, the more the need for conversation for the sake of talking seems uninviting. Here, I don’t need to say anything. I can simply be myself, without facades, without false pretences, without any masks to wear. I don’t have to fill space and time with words for the sake of interrupting silence. That’s what I love about being alone in solitude. The grandeur of true wilderness, tracts of land without trail or road accessibility, calls me deeper and deeper into its majestic places. I feel comfort in being remote. Fear does not factor into my existence here. For many, this may be hard to understand, but the call of the wild is a call to my heart and soul. It feels like home.... and yet, I miss not being snuggled in comfort under cotton sheets freshly laundered, next to my beloved, feeling secure and deeply loved. Every moment has its polar opposite. There is always a price to pay. I have reached Michipicoten. @naturallysuperioradventures