In my coaching there is a lot of self defeating thoughts - as if there was such a thing as human perfection. ⠀
“There is a crack, a crack in everything⠀
That's how the light gets in”⠀
(song Anthem from Leonard Cohen)
Throughout my life, I have thought about "Who do I want to be?" I have taken many paths others told me to take on my journey. Those paths never gave me fulfillment, thus I always felt empty.
One of the most important lessons I learned on my journey - Don't let others decide your future! AND Don't be so busy looking ahead that you are not present where you are! Each day will bring you something in it that will benefit your future self.
If you are thinking about how 2020 will be the year of deciding who you want to be and you want to develop steps to get there comment below or send me a DM.
1 223 January, 2020
I never thought I could get into affirmation... it always felt forced and fake when I tried.
The reason I struggled with them is because I really didn’t love myself and saying kind things made me feel uncomfortable. It’s the same reason people struggle taking compliments... it’s makes them feel uncomfortable to hear kind words being said to or about them.
I had to start small... I promised myself I wouldn’t say unkind things to myself. If I couldn’t be kind, the least I could do was not being mean to myself. You know, we say things like... I’m such an idiot, I’m so stupid, ugly, dumb etc. Often these are said as a half joke in a time when we’ve forgotten something or done something silly. The issue with “joking” is it becomes something we use when we’re feeling negative about ourselves. Then we really mean those words and use them to tear ourselves apart.
I stopped saying mean things and later I started writing affirmations on paper... it seemed easier to write them instead of saying them
Affirmations are a practice in loving self talk. It’s about being able to say kind and loving things to oneself. Now I rarely say unkind things to myself, even when I make mistakes. I’m gentle with my shortcomings and remind myself that I make mistakes and I’m learning to do better.
Loving yourself is a practice that I plan on being good at. It’s a practice I’ve taught my children to be good at. Like any practice, it’s takes effort... but anything worth having is worth working towards.
Julia was a selfless woman who always lent a helping hand.
1 123 January, 2020
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1 1523 January, 2020
Who is your best friend in the world and how has she helped you become the person you are today?
My best friend literally saved my life...
When I moved to South Africa in 2013 I had to start a completely new life for myself and find new friends, anyone who has ever moved abroad can tell you finding REAL new friends is hard!
@megan.sharrock actually didn't like me AT ALL when we first met 😓. She figured I was an absolute b**ch with a chip on my shoulder (having lots of insecurities and disappointments growing up tends to do that to a person somehow 🤷)
Anywho, when she finally realised I'm actually not too bad she welcomed me into her friend group, into her own family, and even into her boyfriend's family (now husband). Throughout my 4 years in South Africa I have spend all my Christmases and most other holidays with that family and I honestly don't know what I would have done without them 😍
Not only did she give me friends, a family and loads of amazing adventures, she was also the one to convince me I was very much loved and life was worth living when I contemplated committing suicide. (for the whole story read my blog "life is about the journey not the destination).
I have now long grown passed that point, and I can confidently say, am more in love with my life than ever before. However, the appreciation for what she did for me then, the kindness she showed, and still does so every day, remains.
I love you Shmeggie! 😘
Tag your bestie and comment below why they are so awesome in your life
NO TRUER WORDS
Life has a way of sending you curve balls➿, explosive surprises 💥 and shutting your dreams down🚯
It has a way of stopping you dead in your tracks 🚫and making you have to start a new.😩😫😖🥺
I know this TO WELL.
I had dreams and goals I was trying to achieve and then just like that 💣💥💥 some of those dreams VANISHED 🤯
So what you didn't get ... the house
... your bodies sick
... you don't have your kids
... your not married
... your not in the job you want
... you haven't started your business
... that dream you have isn't fulfilled
... that deadline for your goal has passed
... if been through the ringer over and over again
MAYBE... JUST MAYBE your past is the past because
... you would have settled
... you needed more life lessons
... those dreams we're limited
... there are greater goals to achieve
... you would not have become the best version of yourself .
✋🏼❓ARE YOU STILL BREATHING...
I’m guessing the answer is yes, because your reading this...
So that means there STILL IS A FUTURE, OPPORTUNITIES, the ability to ACHIEVE & OBTAIN. That means there is still the ability to PROSPER, there’s HOPE for your future
So don’t cry
dry your eyes
pick up yourself
and give life another try
...live your life cause it’s not over
🗣BUT I’M HERE TO TELL YOU
That just because your past didn't turn out the way you thought... doesn't mean your future can't be greater.
. #keepclimbing #keepstriving #keepdreaming #imagine #believe #imnotdeadyet #livelifetothefullest #myfutureisbright #mypastdoesnotdefineme #mypastdoesnotdefinemyfuture .
. #lifesurvivor#fibromyalgia#fibrofighter#fibrowarrior#spoonie#spoonielife #motivation#inspiration#life#realtalk #mylifeisatestimony #thefibromyalgiamonologues
0 323 January, 2020
Had no idea that a little red key could bring so much happiness LOL😂😂😂😂😂😂👊🏼
Lets thro it back to 2009 when I was OBEAST. Working hard and not paying attention to myself and voila Im a cool 270lbs just like that.... Took it to The Road to The Sexy and decided I was going to save myself.
Got me a 'SHINNY SUIT' and started. It wasnt easy but I got down to a whoppin 195lbs with the help of @christophermcdonnough@ultimatefitnessjamaica I was SEXY 😂😂😂.
Over the years I have struggled with maintaining my weight because simply put Im a FOODIE... This is a struggle lots of us face and I can tell you just start, set your goal and try to be consistent with your exercises and FOOD. #healthiswealth #lifelongbutitshort#livelifetothefullest
Funny how they come begging back saying they saw the light and have “truly changed”. What a load of doo doo. Once is a mistake, twice is a habit so don’t make lowering yourself a habit. Hold your head up high and move on. Let them feel that line to someone else. You deserve better but you first have to expect better and reject lowering your standards👍🏻. Plus with your head up you will find someone who is raising their standards to find you!
Happy Thursday y’all! So, this week I’ve felt super under the weather and I have been attracting nothing but, lazy and negative vibes. It’s true what they say, you attract the energy you give off so, here i am reading this and I realize, I haven’t been my best self this week which is why I’ve probably been feeling so crappy! So even on tour off days, don’t let negativity rule you, you have a choice! Wake up, Show up and be the best version of “you” you can be!! Have a great day & cheers to a better day!!! #goodvibes#opendoors#enjoylife#attractgoodenergy