The look on my face when I'm seeking the approval of others . . . also the look on my face when I realize my opinion of self is the only one that truly matters. For what its worth, I'm proud of myself and a seemingly minor moment to the outside world today has been a tremendous triumph in my personal life and emotional development. ❤
Since I failed at doing the gratitude challenge— I just wanted to take a moment to express how thankful I am for this man! I’m so thankful that I get to spend eternity with him! He is truly one of my favorite humans! Today we were able to attend an Aggie football game for a little bit! I’m still learning a lot about football and have to ask a bazillion questions but he patiently answers every one of them while trying to enjoy the game. He makes life easier and better. He encourages me to chase dreams and to do the things that I love. He lets me cry on his shoulder (even about dumb things or when jazz players get traded). He is my best friend! When friends ask for advice when preparing for marriage or in dating, the best advice I can give is marry someone that is your best friend, biggest fan and that makes you laugh! It makes life 10000000% easier! #jmayjrayadventures#marryyourbestfriend#lovethelifeyoulive#flourish#2019#gratitude#thankful
Well, doing the gratitude challenge this month was a fail and I didn’t feel like trying to catch up. But here is a thought I’d like to journal and share—
My life is pretty good. I’m happily married. I get to make a difference in children’s lives. I’m working on another masters degree. I’m involved in my community. I’m learning and growing BUT my self care is out of control or not existent. Ever since we found out that we miscarried in January, I’ve been angry with my body and not taking steps to heal. I often feel unmotivated and then will push myself to be a perfectionist with work and school and it’s become a unhealthy cycle. I just realized how much of a funk I have been in. I’m trying to overcome it and do some self healing. This includes setting realistic goals , working on things that bring me joy and going back to the gym! I’m ready to start reaching goals, preparing for a half marathon, and pursuing things that really make me happy! This quote was the perfect reminder that I needed! It’s okay to struggle, it’s okay to hurt, it’s okay to need time to feel and heal. And it’s okay to fall in love with caring for yourself. That’s my new goal! I want to become the best version of myself possible! #selflove#selfhealing#progression#onestepatatime#miscarryinghurts#movingforward#lovethelifeyoulive#jmayjrayadventures#2019#flourish#loveyourself
I remember when I first started this account I didn’t tell a soul except my husband. I was too afraid of what people would think, but now I’m SO glad I did. There has been so much power in no longer worrying about how people perceive me and I encourage everyone to JUST BE YOURSELF. Whoever you are, wherever you come from, whatever you may carry with you...know that there are people who will accept you and love you for YOU, flaws and all ❣️
Somebody got to meet Elsa today! She doesn’t look happy but this girl was in love! She sang with her when she sang let it go, she showed her her her shoes 😂😂 cause why not!? I’m obsessed with watching this sweet girl grow up and be so excited to experience life!
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Did you know that cactuses grew in the snow?! 🌵 ⛄️ 🤣
My love @steveonthewater looking a little confused by this lovely random crocheted sign... 😊
Arbonne have announced the location for next year's incentive trip and oh my gosh it looks absolutely UNREAL. I have made the decision that I will do absolutely whatever it takes to earn this trip for my family next year, I've set my goals, I'm aiming big and absolutely going for it. 😍 There is no reason why you can't take advantage of the free sign up this month with all qualifying orders and together we can work on this trip and both be in paradise next year! What have you got to loose by just giving it ago! 🇻🇳🍹🌴✈
Today is our 2 year anniversary of the fire & over the past 2 years since I have had my fair share of pain & suffering & what I learned is family is forever, money will come, love will find you, the people who are meant to stay in your life will stay, & life will turn out a lot better than you imagined as long as you believe. Every test in our life makes us bitter or better. It’s that simple.You either take whats been dealt to you & allow it to make you a better person or allow it to tear you down. The choice is yours. But definitely don’t let the world make you hard. Stay soft & don’t let pain make you hate because sometimes the road to self discovery is through lifes scars. And I love the woman I’m becoming and I wouldn’t be the person I am today without all I have been though. So if you’re reading this I want you to know you are strong, you will be fine and you are not alone! ❤️ #staystrong#staysweet#realtalk#livethelifeyoulove#lovethelifeyoulive#womenintrucking#nevergiveup#neverforget#keepfighting#staypositive#mentalhealth#mentalhealthawareness
This is the surprise ending we're all actually here for. The gift of learning how to show up for ourselves over and over again, instead of expecting/hoping/wishing desperately that someone else will FINALLY SHOW UP FOR US.
No relationship, and no sexy-studly human, can save you from the inherent hardship of being a person in the world. If you're a person in the world please make peace with the fact that you will be very afraid sometimes. You will get lonely. You will struggle and feel sad. You will have phases of life where nothing seems to go your way. You will try the new seasonal latte at Starbucks and find it way too sweet and totally gross and feel GRAVELY DISAPPOINTED. Life is full of womp-womp's, and bad (coffee) things happen to good people.🤷🏻♀️☕️
If you are operating under the false assumption that finding your person will protect you from the pain of life (past, current, or future pain), I have to burst your bubble. No one and nothing can protect you from pain, because pain is part of the package deal. THE BIGGEST WOMP-WOMP OF THEM ALL.😩
But do not despair, because you get to become your own greatest ally in learning how to respond to painful moments and strenuous challenges. And that’s the only definition of "happily every after" I ever want to get down with. Not one where some Prince Charming appears out of the clouds and carries you off in a pumpkin carriage to the land of "No More Problems". (If you see signage for some such place, please tuck-n-roll outta that gourd-vehicle because it's a FALLACY, boo boo. 🙅🏻♀️)
It can be so fucking empowering to take on the task of saving yourself, and supporting yourself, and choosing yourself, instead of waiting for someone else to do it. Please stop waiting. Please stop buying into the fantasy. Please decide that you can handle all of life's storms, and that when the right person enters the picture to SUPPORT you (but not do the work for you), you'll be so well-practiced in loving and caring for your sweet self that you’ll get to effortlessly model for them that THIS IS HOW IT’S DONE, HONEY. Weather the storm with me, but know that I know that it's not your job to pluck me from the waves.🙌
Math can wait, so can spelling!
If you are having a miserable homeschool experience, start here!
I know it scares you to death, but I promise it will be ok.
Take a break,
Find the things you can enjoy and connect over.
A walk in nature, a puzzle or board game.
Cook a meal together.
Cuddle on the couch and share some popcorn.
Take time to know your little human. ✨
Listen more than you speak,
Open your mind and consider new possibilities about the relationship you are building.
Set goals together and come up with a plan.
Join their team, instead of being their opponent. ✨
I hear you!
It’s not going the way you planned....
You thought you would be getting closer to your child by homeschooling, instead it’s never felt so rocky.
And here’s why:
You don’t actually know your kid.
If like me, your kids went to school for a few years first, they may truly be a stranger.
Even more important to understand is they don’t know who they are either, or even what they like.
Remember someone has been telling them all day what they can and can’t do with their time and what’s important to know. ✨
Curriculum can wait...shoot, just start “winter break” early!
You don’t have to stay stuck.
You don’t have to resent and regret this decision.
Learning will flow freely in an environment of trust and respect, but building that type of environment does not happen overnight.
I’m talking about cooperation not coercion.
You are on the same team.
When they win, we win and vice versa. 🙌
Listen I still stop.
When I feel our connection if off, when the bickering is off the charts and I’m feeling “not heard” more often than I can stand.
The lessons and skills we develop on those days always exceed traditional academics.
We tap into self-awareness, we identify problems and consider solutions, we take steps towards healing.
I never want you to feel like this isn’t a process or that I have a secret.
I’m figuring it out, but I know where I experience success and this is definitely the foundation. 💯