Today's post is based on a #linkedin post by Kelly Burton, PhD. She was reflecting on looking 10 years back and how much of her growth was on purpose.
How much of your growth was done on purpose?Laurence D.Samson Williams Elena Savinova Elena Sinelnikova Caitlin Barnett Maureen L. Murat, Esq.Marcus "Blockchain" Howard Matteo Benigni Linas Beliūnas Jeremy Rodgers Chinmay Patel Paul McNeal Katharina Dalka Jen Buakaew Katia Lang Keir Finlow-Bates Stefan Petersen Derrick Raphael Esq.Ryan "Coop D'Ville" Cooper Amber Ogunsola Silvana Ortega Sierra Shanna Tellerman Joseph Iuso, CAMS Stephen Brent Sargeant, CAMS, CBP Stephen Chase Lisa Turner, PMP Linas Beliūnas
I've lived for three decades now; I find that fact extraordinary. It seems like it wasn’t that long ago that I walked across the stage at my high school graduation, perfectly poised for success, feeling like a grown-up and grateful that my worst, most awkward years were behind me.
#Flashback#friday trying to look #sexy for this #germanvogue photo shoot. I was probably 19 years old. I would do the poses then get off the set, go to the bathroom and cry. I was homesick and compared myself to the other models who I thought did such a better job with their self confidence and the way they looked. Through the years I have learned to stop looking outside of myself for validation. Never compare yourself to anyone as god makes no mistakes. Self confidence, true beauty and self love is an inside job I found with meditation 🧘♀️ and yoga with both @yogacarenyc and @relaxwithadam. I’m still learning but “ baby I’ve come a long way’”❤️🐛🦋
42 2215 hours ago
One of the surest ways to guarantee your success is to spend some precious time uncovering yourself and discovering what holds you back in all areas of your life.
When you spend time in deep introspection, soulful meditation, really connecting with your CORE ESSENCE, then everything else starts to make more sense as you take 100% personal responsibility of your life, your dreams, and your destiny.
Honestly, I’ve been laughed at, gossiped about, ridiculed, judged, criticized, you name it. I’ve been working on myself like a psycho for the past two years and the road has been a little lumpy, and I still continue to work. I still continue every day to grow and learn and show up with the most positivity, enthusiasm, and excitement possible.
Thankfully the higher powers that be (God, the Universe, Gaia, my higher self) all conspired together to open up the space for me to coexist in an environment that completely fosters my growth and my becoming the true woman I am.
I’ve gotten to make some significant changes. Changes in my thought patterns, changes in the stories I tell myself, changes in the way I look after my body, changes in who I devote my precious time to, changes in the way I parent my son, changes in my daily habits, changes all over the place. •
It’s been a significant journey. And I’ve begun to see more clarity of who I truly am and what I’m truly here on this earth for than I’ve ever seen before.
I’ve become much more of the powerful, MATURE, professional, bright and shiny woman that I’ve always envisioned myself to be. And I’m so excited to keep becoming her every single day for the rest of my life.
Try it out my friends. Making some internal changes for you could honestly change your entire destiny!!
Can we talk about Haters?
We all have them. And too many of us worry about why they don’t like us, for whatever reason.
Let me tell you something, Who cares?! Whatever it may be, jealousy, anger, lack of self confidence. The insecurities in another human are their issues, not yours. So don’t give them space to occupy and create a negative mindset in you. .
Live your life for you and only you and forget the rest. I know I know, sometimes easier said then done but if you keep pushing forward, if you keep doing you, it’ll bring you peace ♥️
“I’d rather be hated for who I am, the loved for who I am not” -Kurt Cobain
Always play hard to win, but be mature in defeat & don't be a sore loser. No one ever says, “it's only a game” when their team is winning. #thinkaminute#maturity
0 136 hours ago
Tomorrow morning we have guest speaker Rob Wall, all the way from the UK 🇬🇧 and he’ll be speaker at our 10:30am service. Come out to join us for a special Sunday service and God wants to speak to you!
77 Hammers Road Northmead, NSW 2152 @ 10:30am #vosydney#VictoryOutreach#Church#Jesus#Faith#Maturity
0 56 hours ago
*** Liked?! Add this 'post' to your 'stories' and follow me @_5amclub !! *** 🥰 “Wherever you are, whoever you are, whatever you may be following as an occupation, there is roomfor you to make yourself more useful, and in that manner more productive, by developing and using your 'imagination'.” *Napoleon Hill* *The Original Manuscript*
A huge part of my life that I share very little of is.. running the Svelte brand and business! 💻
Behind my social media posts, workout videos, and programs is a huge business that I have created!
I knew that I wanted to help hundreds of thousands of people change their lifestyle to feel healthier and happier! (Total is around: 800k 💙)
My day to day is CRAZY! Between running and operating the business and being fully present with my kids I never know what time or day it is 😂
However, I am not saying this to brag or gain pitty I am saying this to show you that I truly care about you and your success.
I hustle this hard for you!
So, I have a quick question...
Do you hustle hard for yourself?⠀
Do you show up for yourself everyday?⠀
Do you get the job done even when you are tired?
If you answered no to even one of these questions above, then I want to help you.
I want to coach you to WANT to show up for yourself everyday... to reach your goals.
DM me SVELTE if you’re ready to take control of your health in 2020!
Be present to how people make you feel, check in with your body, are there red flags that you can not ignore?
Remember it’s always about the quality of the people you want to be in community with not quantity beautiful friends.
To be certain of your friends means they want the very best for you, love you unconditionally, and will sit and laugh with you often. And vice versa. However, there are certain friends that just wants to hear nice mushy things from us. They don't appreciate advices or reminders that would benefit both parties. Nowadays, most friendships are only good when it's all laugh and jokes. When it requires serious conversations, they turn their back on you.
Real, mature and wise friends are hard to come by. If Allah blessed you with them, Alhamdulillah. 😊
*** Liked?! Add this 'post' to your 'stories' and follow me @_5amclub !! *** 🥰 “Everything happens for a reason - but it is our responsibility to choose the most empowering reasons for the challenges, events and circumstances of our lives.” *Hal Elrod* *The Miracle Morning*
TODA VEZ QUE algum amigo me diz ter sofrido uma desilusão, dou-lhe os parabéns e fico feliz por ele. Depois explico que desiludir-se é um ato de libertação, de abandono da ilusão. Você esteve preso a uma fantasia, a um delírio, uma farsa, mas algo mudou e você enxergou a verdade, a saída; Você andou enganado, perdido, iludido, agora você sabe, você descobriu, se libertou e encontrou um caminho de fato... Desiludir-se está entre as coisas ruins que fazem bem, assim como uma injeção, um remédio amargo, retirar um abcesso. Pode doer na hora, mas o alívio que vem depois te recompensa, te faz mais forte e te permite recomeçar... .
✨✨Getting yourself together requires a level of Honesty you can’t even Imagine. There’s nothing Easy about Realizing you’re the one that’s Been holding you back this whole time 💫 #levels#Growth#Maturity
4 439 hours ago
thank you @babaramdass. i believe in this mentality so fervently. wonderful reminder.
Alright, let’s get real...🙋🏽♀️
I’ve seen some of the fittest people in the world also be the most miserable, and vice versa!
For those who think all their problems will be solved once they lose the weight...
I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but this just simply isn’t the case.
If you aren’t happy in your head and heart pre-weight loss, things don’t magically fall into place once you shed some fat.
You will still be carrying emotional weight that requires more than consistent healthy eating and a gym routine.
It is never too late to start working on your mental and emotional health.
It’s challenging work, but also the most rewarding, that makes you lighter in more ways than one.
Everyone needs it one way or another, so what’s stopping you from starting your head & heart healing? ❤️🧠🙏🏽
104 2,81413 February, 2020
When we are young, we quickly learn how to behave in order to keep love, approval and affection.
Because we are so small and vulnerable, we look to our caretakers for cues on what emotions are safe to express, what behaviors to model, and how safe it is to simply be all of ourselves.
Our “masks” are the layers of protection we build to keep us feeling “safe” in the world. While these masks can serve us for certain points in our lives, they can also hold us back from expressing our true essence in the world.
Our relationship to our voice, our power, and our boundaries are all wrapped up in the relationship we have (or don’t have) with our inner-child.
Nurturing a relationship with our inner-child allows us to open up new channels of creative expression and integrate our emotions on a whole new level.
Anytime we are cut off from our inner-child, self-sabotage behaviors are far more likely, because when we don’t feel innately safe, we become defensive, push love away, or react more intensely than we do when we have a solid sense of inner-safety and care.
As we mature, we can maintain a dialogue with our most vulnerable parts and then respond with love and responsible action.
🚨If you want your marriage to last…keep reading…
Alright, we all know marriage itself has enough of its own joys and trials to last a lifetime - but when you add kids into the mix…
You parents already know…the dynamic changes! And things increasingly get more and more difficult.
Some couples will say Kids. Come. First. 𝐀𝐋𝗪𝐀𝐘𝐒.
Yes, it’s an all-consuming job, and parents are expected to be more attentive and accommodating than ever.
Buttt…if you’re planning on having a long, happy, healthy marriage, your relationship with your spouse should 𝐀𝐋𝗪𝐀𝐘𝐒 come first.
You might be thinking, “How could you even think about putting your kids second!? It is our JOB as parents to care for their every need. They are dependent on us.”
Yes, yes, but hear me out…
With this mindset, parents end up getting stuck in a place where they continue to feel like their kids are the #1 priority even as they grow and become more independent.
A strong, loving marriage that is prioritized above all is the healthiest thing you can give your kids!!
Your kids feel safe and loved when they see two parents who work as a team, take interest in each other, and make a real effort, letting nothing and no one come before that.
Also, it teaches our children what a good partner looks like, and what they should be seeking when their time comes to find love.
Not to mention, when you make kids the center of your universe, they become obnoxious and turn into adults who think they’re the center of the universe! 🤦🏽♀️🙅🏽♂️
Need some ideas on ways to prioritize your partner?
-Ask them what is most important to them. What is their love language? What do they need from you to feel loved?
-Small, thoughtful gestures. Bring them coffee in bed. Leave a note in their car. Cook them their favorite meal.
-Make time for a regular date night, no matter how much you’ve got on your plate.
When your kids turn 18 and leave the nest, what will you and your spouse be left with? A marriage you nurtured or neglected?
So, how are you prioritizing your hunny? Leave a comment! 💑
TBT: To my birthday party last year. I’d just wrapped a film and I asked my friends to plan an intimate party in a beautiful home and let’s dance it out. That’s exactly what they did. My bday is Saturday (2/22) and the older I get the less I need the big monster parties and the more I need the connection. I’ve been blessed this very special birth year to celebrate in all of the places where I have the greatest connections: New York, Chicago & LA. And this 44th year is a palindrome 02-22-20 (it’s the same going backwards and forward). It’s already proving to be an epic one for the books and we’re just getting started. Let’s GO!! 💜💜💜
____________________________________________ #tbt#birthdayboy 🎉 #birthdayboy#birthdays#friends#framily#family#connection#growth#maturity#vision#epic#love
31 32620 February, 2020
My advice to you...
Let go of the idea that someday you’ll “𝘢𝘳𝘳𝘪𝘷𝘦”, someday you’ll get “𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘦”.
Hate to break it to you, but there is no “𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘦”.
I used to imagine this magical place where I’d never have to work on myself again.
Where I’d finally just be happy, problem free, and “fixed.”
Sure, I got to a point where I was able to look back and proudly admit I had come a long way…
but I eventually learned and embodied the concept that personal development is life-long. There is no destination.
The goal should be getting 1% better each day, or what is known as:
‘𝐊𝐚𝐢𝐳𝐞𝐧’- the Japanese philosophy of continuous improvement.
Self-improvement is an ongoing process. It never ends.
& that should be so freaking exciting!
We get to continue to better ourselves and learn more about who we truly are each and every day.
These gradual improvements, without a crazy attachment to the destination, is what will make for a more fulfilling, successful journey through life.