Love is the decision that being is fundamentally good or it's the decision to act as if being is fundamentally good. A precondition of being is limitations like rules to a game. With limitations come suffering and tradegy as consequences; inevitable consequences. With limitations also come possibilities; if you want to have the being where possibilities are maximized, you have to accept the limitations that produce tradegy. Transcending my own suffering I accept my state of being and existence thus helping me accept others' limitations, enabling me to love their existence despite of their imperfections and vulnerabilities.
Now the question is— Is being worth the tragedy and suffering? And the answer to that is (a) Yes, is love and (b) No, is the opposite of love.
reason for loving a person.
Do we actually love someone and be with them to be happy? I bet most of us have rejected someone for being to nice. We need a challenge; someone we can get along with but one who would point at our flaws and judge us harshly for our limitations and often times we will get angry and resentful. You question yourself for nights and you torture yourself for days and that keeps you linked to the relationship in a sense. A part of the reason is that we do not want to be happy moment-to-moment and do want to live a high quality life for decades with someone who is going to push us to the unknown limitations we hold. We don't get bored in people who push us beyond who we are.
Also, you don't want to be with someone who thinks you're perfect in your current form. Why would you want to be with someone so deluded? —@_un.love