No, not the Mother of the Year nom I was hoping for. I nailed my youngest daughter in the face during dodgeball. 🤦🏽♀️ WTF Xavia?!?! .
In my defense, I was not aiming for her face and my arm has been in recovery for years so I didn't even think I could still throw with enough force. I think I just got a little caught up in being a big ass kid and swept up in the momentum. My older daughter was gunning for me so hard she tripped my competitive switch, but my baby girl got caught in the cross fire and I feel like 💩 🤦🏽♀️
I had a teenager calmly suggest to my grown ass that I, "try playing with my left hand next time"
. #confessthemess if you need me you can find me at the kiddie table, with a juice box enjoying a little time out til I get my act together
Even when they sleep through the night and dress themselves and lie-in past 6 on weekends, it can be an uphill struggle at times - even when they're the best craic one minute, they can be hard work the next. And some of them complain a lot, or tell me it's not fair, or struggle to see how good they have it. So I was very taken aback tonight when out of the blue, one of mine announced, "You know, I have a really nice life - great friends, a great family, and lots of cool stuff." Taken aback and surprised and delighted. Tomorrow, no doubt, it will be business as usual, with lots of "it's not fair", but tonight, at least one kid is happy, and I am too. .
𝕊𝕠 𝕗𝕦𝕟𝕟𝕪 𝕤𝕥𝕠𝕣𝕪...so we WERE on track to stay within budget, have a fun weekend, and reach our goals for this pay period...but then last night we decided to stop and visit my grandmother who is in the hospital AFTER a super fun day of church and trampoline park fun (𝕡𝕖𝕣𝕜𝕤 𝕠𝕗 𝕪𝕖𝕒𝕣𝕝𝕪 𝕡𝕒𝕤𝕤𝕖𝕤!), but then we all got hangry on the way home and decided to eat. We first stopped at Panera and they were OUT of baguettes (my girls FAV thing about Panera) so we left...and opted to go to Moe’s, where my husband left his phone and we had to drive BACK. Dinner was followed by an unexpected trip to the grocery store. We should have just went home, but we didn’t and we have to transfer some $ tonight from our emergency fund tonight during our budget meeting AND now replenish on payday. Urg. Rookie mistakes? Growing pains? Poor self control?💰😳😢👎
1 121 hours ago
Why I stopped blogging, and why I'm starting again.
In May 2018 when Finn arrived into our lives like the most beautiful but chaotic storm you've ever seen, blogging was a way to vent my frustrations.
The more I wrote, the better I felt, but the more I read back what I'd written, the more I realised how ungrateful I sounded. There are hundreds of thousands of people on this planet trying to have a baby, and there I was calling my gorgeous, healthy bundle a parasite.
I was far from ungrateful. I just wanted to be the honest voice in a community filled with images of picture-perfect families and sleeping-soundly babies. I wanted to be a person who could honestly say "he doesn't sleep, he screams in the supermarket, he shits up his back and pissed in my eye the other day" because I wanted other parents to realise they were alone, just as I thought I was in my first month of mumming.
In the last couple of days, my Instagram following has increased a lot, and with this increase has come messages from parents telling me how I had somehow put into words exactly how they were feeling. Others saying that they didn't feel so alone anymore.
This is not why I started blogging, but it's absolutely why I will continue to do so. If I can help another person in any way, even if its just for a couple of minutes, to make this absolute minefield feel somewhat easier to navigate, then I'm doing it.
I will be honest, as brutally honest as I need to be. I will not be ungrateful, I am grateful for everything about Finn; from his screaming tantrums to his bitey kisses.
Having said that, I'd love it if he stopped shitting in the bath.
I have read many as a children's counsellor and fostering and adoption social worker. I have even trained in a few.
My ultimate resource though is a 1970's classic. How to talk so kids will listen and listen so kids will talk by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlesh. It teaches down to earth approaches for keeping the lines of communication open with your children.
What is yours?
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Thank you, @peaceandparenting for sharing this quote today. So many of us experience feelings of guilt throughout pregnancy, labor and delivery, postpartum, and parenting. Why did we enjoy that glass of wine while pregnant when it just makes us feel guilty? Why didn’t everything go according to my birth plan? I must’ve messed up somehow. Why does motherhood seem so easy for some but I’m struggling? Why can’t I seem to stop yelling at my toddler? These are just some of the negative thoughts that can enter our minds during these challenging seasons of life. Forgive yourself for these thoughts and for the actions that often follow them. •
If we could see our children as young, under developed and just learning individuals, who are deeply flawed and unable to always chose the right way, and in constant need of forgiveness ... would that make it easier?
If we also see ourselves similarly, will we be able to forgive our own transgressions when it comes to parenting?
Can we let go of mistakes we have made and poor behavior which ensues in the heat of the moment? If we choose forgiveness, will punishments, reprimands, and consequences seem unnecessary and ineffective?
If we lead with forgiveness before all else does that give ourselves and our child room to make mistakes?
A household filled with forgiveness, is a household full of compassion and love. MLK had it so right: forgiveness breeds understanding, the understanding that mistakes and missteps are a natural part of this life and without forgiveness we cannot have compassion. •
Fussy eating & sleep 🍉👶🏻
A common side effect of overtiredness come dinner time, is fussy eating. Although to us eating our food seems like a pretty straight forward task, to your bub or toddler who is eating solids this may be a huge process for them especially if nearing a nap or bedtime.
Trying new foods, using cutlery or simply putting the food to their mouth are important developmental motor skills your child may still be mastering.
If you find your child is rubbing their eyes, throwing food on the floor, having tantrums and dinner time is impossible, try bringing their dinner (or lunch) time forward slightly to help if they are experiencing overtiredness at this time - 20 minutes might make all the difference.
Solid food intake and sleep really do go hand in hand and I find children who eat better, sleep better and children who sleep better are happier ❤️ do you agree? What’s dinner time like at your place? 😊
1 821 hours ago
I wander from place to place, house to home, satisfied to restless. My mind goes from Earth to Heaven. From present to past to future and back again. From deep grief to full-on joy. I go from knowing full well and trusting in His promises to melting in a puddle over my son’s grassy grave. I lift my hands in praise and in the same breath I crumble at the foot of the cross. I am growing and serving and loving as best I can. And I still fall short. I am a very blessed wife, a homeschooling mama and a friend who struggles to return text messages. I am resting in Him because parenting is hard and mothering kids who have gone through loss is even harder. I long to be filled so that I can pour out.
Do you ever feel poured out? Restless? Like you are just wandering in circles each day?
I am learning to live with contradictions because I am living in the in between. Between what was and what will be. It’s beautiful and heartbreaking. It’s joyful and sorrowful.
I miss what was. I’m thankful for what is. I long for what will be.
Because every single part of what we have now is broken. Nothing is perfect and there is pain even in the beauty of my amazing family. I love my family with my entire being. But I hurt for what they have been through to get to me. I ache for what my bio kids have endured.
I hold onto the hope, the gospel. And I watch for glimpses of heaven here on earth. #adoption#childloss#griefmama#adopt#fostercare#adoptionbeginswithloss#redemption#glimpsesofheaven#beautyofadoption#parenting#gospelcomealive
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Today was one of those days when parenting is a challenge and stress levels are high...and pulling my hair out seems like it could more than an idiom...except for the 2 hours I brought them out adventuring around the farm looking for ice to crack. Very fortunate to live here today....and cracking ice is soooo satisfying. 😆 #bluemonday#cracking#parenting#nature
0 721 hours ago
Atunci când părinții au relații bune cu copiii lor, și cei mici au relații mai armonioase unul cu celălalt. Când părinții au cu fiecare copil în parte o relație punitivă și încărcată de negativism, și copiii devin agresivi și egoiști unul față de celălalt.
Deși nu vă puteți controla copiii, puteți să controlați totuși pe cineva care exercită o influență enormă asupra felului în care ei interacționează. Pe voi înșivă.' #psychology#counselling#psychotherapy#parenting#psihologie#psihologcluj
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1 221 hours ago
Started back our unit studies today and this month our artist is Claude Monet 🌸 Every month we learn about a different artist and composer. In this little corner we display past projects the kids completed as well as new ones. 🖼Swipe through to see close ups for book ideas and Sam’s recreation of Field of Poppies✨ Who are you currently studying? 📚
1 5421 hours ago
where are my skeptics at? okay cool because me too! i used to give the internet “eye roll” about it all:: essential oils & network marketing. .
& then something happened. i was desperate for help with my emotions. i was drowning & needed answers. essential oils weren’t the answer—healing mind, body, & soul was, but i would be lying if i didn’t share what oils have done for my emotions!!! night & day friends! .
network marketing helped me heal! my friend shared how they were helping her & i was influenced to try with a skeptical heart!! (that is all network marketing is—-it is sharing because you know someone can benefit!)
if you want to hear how essential oils helped my emotions & continue to i cover it all in my FREE class! because i CARE! i was YOU! & i am forever thankful someone was bold & willing to share with me ❤️✨
how have essential oils helped you? 👇🏻 would love to hear from you ❤️
3 821 hours ago
Motivation • Fitness has always been a big part of my life but motherhood changed my mindset, my lifestyle & encouraged me to take fitness more seriously than ever.
I used to work in the fashion industry which involved long hours, late nights & many (not as glamorous as they look) parties, but all that changed when my daughter was born & became the absolute light of my life.
My choice to live a healthy lifestyle has never been more important to me & even though 3 year olds have more energy than I could possibly wish for I still encourage her to take part in activities that make fitness fun. This is us at baby gym, do you know how hard it is to get out of these foam pits!
1 421 hours ago
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1 421 hours ago
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Things I want you to say to yourself on #bluemonday and always!
I will get it all done EVENTUALLY
I can do anything, but I can’t do everything - Taking care of myself is part of taking care of my children
I am doing my best and that is all I can expect from myself
If at first I don’t succeed, try again after coffee
Exhale the bullshit
I am a powerhouse, I am indestructible
Let them be little - Asking for help is a strength, not a weakness
I am not a bad mum. I’m a good mum having a bad day
I have enough, I do enough, I AM ENOUGH
Carbs are the answer
Everything is a phase
I will forever support other mothers
My body, my rules
I was meant for this
What do I want them to remember?
Not every day is good but there’s something good in EVERY day
THIS IS MY MOTHERHOOD
And my favorite MLK Jr. quote: "If you can't fly then run, if you can't run then walk, if you can't walk then crawl, but whatever you do you have to keep moving forward."
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A family member recounted a small but powerful scenario that happened in her Sacrament Meeting. While conducting the meeting, the bishop acknowledged that one of his counselors was not present on the stand; his counselor’s wife was ill and he was sitting in the pews with his children. Interestingly, not once was the man’s spouse acknowledged for sitting alone with her children week after week while her husband sat on the stand. Why? Because women are expected to perform the bulk of the invisible labor required for maintaining relationships.
Women’s work is often invisible and goes unnoticed…because it is expected from women.
The belief that all women are “naturally” nurturing and find fulfillment in performing emotional and mental labor can perpetuate its devaluation. If we think that the invisible labor that maintains relationships just flows effortlessly from women or that “women are just better at these things than men are” we run the risk of overlooking and undervaluing invisible work of women in families, home, Church, work, and communities because we assume they want to be doing this work. Women do the lion’s share of invisible labor because society expects it. Even for the many women who do find deep fulfillment in modifying their own emotions to fit a social situation, anticipating others’ needs, and providing emotional support and comfort, invisible labor is still work. Hard work. It’s exhausting. And it’s often thankless.
When making your house a home for your little one, there is so much to keep mind in terms of safety precautions such as outlets, wall art, and even those coffee table corners. It's unavoidable that kids will get bumps and bruises along the way, but those sharp corners and heavy material might have you looking for new pieces to add to your living room. Today on The Everymom, we are sharing 30 kid-friendly coffee tables that you'll love — just like this one in @kayla.gann’s home. Find them all at the link in our bio! || photo by @kayla.gann (For the full home tour search "Kayla Gann Home Tour" on the site!) #theeverymom#sharetheeverymom
36 1,49919 January, 2020
I recently had a mom reach out to me seeking reassurance that daycare is the right choice for her family even though people often say the wrong things and love to share their own personal opinions (even when we didn’t ask) the moment they find out a parent needs to rely on childcare because of work... they say things like, “Oh, how can you leave your child all day!” or “If childcare is so expensive why not just quit your job?”
The list never ends, I could go on and on and on!
👉L I S T EN. 👏📢 Childcare, daycare, nanny, grandma, grandpa, au pair, babysitter... none of those are bad words! They are simply a form of support. An amazing form of support that works for YOU and YOUR family. No need to explain anything to anyone. Say it loud and say it proud, mama! It doesn’t matter whether you choose to work or have to work—consider yourself blessed to be able to have this type of support whatever that might look like. You’ve got this, mama!🤰💁♀️🤱
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