I think that; one of the hardest decisions in life is who you choose to surround yourself with. When the people around you aren’t supportive of you in return it makes life a little difficult. The people around you should never expect you to not talk about your achievements or the things you do out of spite or jealousy. The people around you should be like you; supportive and empowering. They treat you the way you treat them. They are proud of you just as you are of them. Love those girls because life is so much easier to deal with when the people around you are supportive. My husband, my family and my friends xxxxx
2 110 minutes ago
Night fuel — If you have it, can give it & wholeheartedly WANT TO then do it. Stop feeling like you have to do for anybody. I had to teach myself the same thing. I also had to stop asking people who are “here for me” for help because I’d always hear how they “didn’t really have it to give” or didn’t want to give it & I took that on as my problem when in fact it wasn’t. I didn’t force anyone to do anything just like no one forced me. Giving is a choice & if it doesn’t come from the heart, STOP DOING IT✨
Choosing you is not selfish or wrong, it's something we need to do. I used to feel guilty for not having my daily to do list done. Like I really used to beat myself up over the fact that laundry didn't get done or that I didn't get to do all the cleaning in the house. I had all of these inconsequential things listed on there that didn't contribute to my well being or the state of our home. We had clean dishes and clean clothes to wear and there was food made so we had the basics covered, but in my mind I should have done more. Whatever I got accomplished during the day while taking care of a newborn wasn’t enough. But it really wasn’t about the housework it was about me feeling like I wasn’t good enough… not good enough of a wife or mother. Not because of anything my husband said because he was always asking how he could help or telling me not to stress or worry. It was because I felt like I had to live up to some unspoken standard that we see on tv, social media or sometimes even from others moms. I felt like I had to compare myself to every other mom I knew of and that left me feeling like I was a failure. Comparison really is the thief of joy, it takes away from the things we should be enjoying in our life. Instead of enjoying having a newborn and watching her grow I was stressing out and feeling terrible.It took me so long to figure out that I matter too, that in order for me to be the wife and mom I want to be I need to prioritize me. Choosing to do something for yourself is not selfish, it’s needed. You can’t be there for someone else if you are not there for yourself first. Motherhood is putting your oxygen mask on first so you can help your husband and kids put theirs on too. How are you showing up for yourself this weekend? Let me know in the comments.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #chooseyou#healthyhappylife#beyourbestyou#mommyblog#mommybloggers#newblogger#christianblogger#motherhoodthroughig#newblog#personalblog#wordpressblogger#browngirlswhoblog#latinablogger
1 325 minutes ago
It's not that I lost sleep over it all, I didn't.
It's the days that I lost, the ones ill never get back, that's what really hurts.
Now I know that people can only take what you give them, what you allow.
Whether it be your identity, your reputation, your loyalty, your spark, your fire - dont let them take it. Its who you are.
Dont forget that. We get lost when we forget, your not supposed to get lost, your exactly where you need to be 🧭
If you follow along on my stories. I posted some weeks ago that we are in the process of getting new chairs for our dinning area. As usual we are at a crossroads on color and design. I am leaning towards black and he wants gray or white. So while we discuss and try and make a decision. We pulled out our old chairs from our first apartment together and left two current ones in place. I am hoping i win this design battle/discussion.
What do you think? Are you team black or grey/white?
A pior coisa no nosso meio - e até fora dele - é o falso moralismo. Êta trem que me irrita. É igual os "sustentáveis" que jogam chiclete na rua. Tem coerência nenhuma.
Todo mundo parece saber o que fazer. Ditar o certo. Ditar o errado. Todo mundo tem discursos prontos. O problema é segurar a mesma persona em todos os ambientes.
Mais importante para mim, querida Carlota, é que você não seja esse tipo de pessoa. Tenha opinião, aprenda a segurar argumentos, não faça mal ao meio-ambiente e por favor, não force algo que você não é.
Seja a mesma Carlota dentro e fora da igreja. Aqui não tem julgamento de valor. Pouco me importa se você tem opinião x ou y, me importa se você está coerente com você mesma.
5 WAYS TO BOOST YOUR CONFIDENCE ⬆️
A few days ago I read somewhere that confidence is like a muscle. The more you use it, the stronger it gets. I started thinking about it and realized that it's indeed true. Something that I have experienced myself.
But what can you do to become more confident?
1️⃣ Meet new people: I believe that people aren't confident enough either due to their inner struggles and fears or due to their surroundings that makes them feel less. If the latter is the case, try changing your social circle to people who will appreciate you for who you are.
2️⃣ Groom yourself: Treat yourself to a good haircut, a nail appointment or a spa day (or organize a pamper day at home). It's amazing how much these small things can change your mood and self-image.
3️⃣ Flirt: According to UC Berkeley study, female flirtation is perceived as confidence. It's fun and it's harmless (as long as you're comfortable with it).
4️⃣ Challenge yourself: do 1 small scary thing every day, something out of your comfort zone. It will make you believe in yourself and in your abilities even more.
5️⃣ Help someone else: ask a friend or an acquaintance if you can be of any help to them. You will do a good deed and it will make you feel good about yourself.
Don't be afraid to show your confidence and your true self. Some people see it as showing off or arrogance, but eventually, self-confidence is a good thing and it will help you achieve many things in life.
the sun on melanin is always magic ☀️
also, this twistout was achieved using the @michebeauty_ intense moisture collection. the exact products i have are posted in my highlights
20 1142 July, 2020
Feels so good to be back at my hometown, I missed my family, the food 😅, the air here is different, the sea, the sun ☀️ ..
When I moved to another country I realised how much my hometown values to me, now I can only think about the goods it has every time I come here and completely forget the other things that I used to complain about when I lived here..
روی باغچه خودتان تمرکز کنید، متوجه زندگی خودتان باشید، میبینید به قدر کافی علف هرز وجود دارد که شما را مشغول کند.🕊✨
مانتو وشال از @hanii_beig 💚
22 1,32315 hours ago
The season in which we can “start wearing less and going out more” aka summer is my favourite time of the year. Obviously this year it’ll be a bit different but that doesn’t mean we can’t make the best of it! Here are some ways you can still enjoy the season:
☀️ Have a beach or backyard picnic (this beautiful picnic set up was done by @bohobeachbusan )
☀️Go on a hike or bike ride
☀️Have a backyard bonfire
☀️Start a garden
☀️Go to a drive-in movie theatre
These should of course be done while abiding by Covid precautions such as social distancing and wearing masks☺️