So many people walk around each day masking their true feelings because they are considered the “strong one, the upbeat, bubbly one,” or, since they give so much of themselves supporting others, they’re not seen as having any emotions other than happy. If you’ve ever felt like you had to hold it together all the time to keep up a façade for others, there’s freedom in letting people know that you have feelings too. 👇🏼
As psychotherapist Barton Goldsmith wrote, “When you open your mouth, you’re also opening your heart. And knowing that someone truly hears what you are feeling and understands you is soothing to the soul.” Give yourself permission to feel whatever you feel, without judgment, and learn to recognize when you’re lying to yourself, telling yourself you’re “fine” when you’re not. The first step to being honest with others is being honest with yourself.
It’s a heavy burden to hide behind a façade or wear a mask. Allow yourself to experience the freedom of being authentic in each moment and making genuine connections with people who can receive your feelings.
There’s power in putting down your super hero cape, being vulnerable, and sharing your truth. You don’t have to hide, pretend, or feel bad about not always being the “strong one.” You’re not weak, you’re human, and you never have to apologize for that. #bekind#stoppretending#standupforyourself#bekindtoyourself#loveyourself#selfcare#emotions#neverhideyourfeelings#love#experience#relationship#heartbreak#humanbeing#heavyburden#vulnerability#masking#thoughtoftheday#fridayfeeling#openup#openyourheart .
Through my tears at the UK election results I wrote a love letter for myself later on, and for everyone who needs it... “A love letter to the marginalized and the vulnerable” by Sarah Mariann Martland
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My father said to me one day "shopping isn't a skillset most men share." I asked him why?
He said "most men fail to see past their own ego, so they never learn to pay attention." I said 🤔. Then I realized he wasn't shopping for me or himself. From that point on I paid attention.
So when @rbrea001 gets dress everyday I pay attention.
When shes says "I will never wear high heels but @naturalizer_shoes are so comfortable I paid attention.
When it comes to every feature of her body, I pay attention.
I don't need her to tell me what she wants to wear, I bring it home before she knows she needs it.
Do you pay attention? How many, by show of 👋 can do as I do.
Wait til you see the execution.
We ain't taking schit back, i get it right the first time, pay attention 💥👊🤓
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Поговаривают , что любовь в жизни даётся человеку только раз.
Все мы помним свои первые отношения: совершенно наивные, детские , нелепые, чистые, на грани волшебной сказки о единорогах.
Если у вас не было такой сказочной романтичной любви , то чем вы там травмированы меня вообще не интересует , мы с вами разные люди.
А те , у кого она была, помнят , что мы тогда совершенно не разбирались в чувствах, мы и в себе-то не разбирались. Такая любовь всегда была жутко эмоциональной и заканчивалась разочарованием и болью , и если человек не делал выводов с первого раза , она повторялась еще раз , пока «дурашка» не повзрослеет.
“He’s not perfect. You aren’t either, and the two of you will never be perfect. But if he can make you laugh at least once, causes you to think twice, and if he admits to being human and making mistakes, hold onto him and give him the most you can. He isn’t going to quote poetry, he’s not thinking about you every moment, but he will give you a part of him that he knows you could break. Don’t hurt him, don’t change him, and don’t expect for more than he can give. Don’t analyze. Smile when he makes you happy, yell when he makes you mad, and miss him when he’s not there. Love hard when there is love to be had. Because perfect guys don’t exist, but there’s always one guy that is perfect for you.” ― Bob Marley
Amazing photo by @caramia
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“I used to think that love is supposed to come in like a storm or a strong wind that will sweep you off your feet or loud knocks on your door strong enough to wake you up from a stupor and how I craved for that. Eventually I learned that love is not meant to damage you or take away your inner peace. It should feel like you’re sitting in front of a fireplace, holding a cup of coffee. It should give you warmth. Warm enough for you to be able to feel like you’re home.” — Aubrey Vazquez
Amazing photo by @sarah.rae.mayne
If this were the mantra for all of us, we would experience so much more connection and healing within the container of relationship.
Taking the time to learn our partner’s heart is one of the most beautiful gifts we can ever extend.
When we slow down and get curious during conflict, we are saying “I see you and I want to love you better”.
When we ask questions instead of making assumptions, we are saying “I want to understand you”.
When we take a breath and tune into our own sensations before reacting so we can share from our heart we are saying “I’m responsible for my reactions, and I want to show up for you”.
Every single person on the planet is worthy of having someone see them, listen to them, and seek to understand them.
Yet in relationship, the power struggle is a dominant channel we find ourselves stuck in - sometimes for years or a lifetime.
It is the stage of relationship that we get caught in when we aren’t in relationship with our shadow - when our patterns are unconsciously running the show.
Showing up for the work in relationship is a two-way dance that requires a connection from head to heart.
It means we are willing to be wrong, and we are willing to see the world through our partners' eyes.
Embodying the practices of Conscious Relationship also means we know that our relationship to self is a priority. It is the foundation from which all other relations may falter or flourish.
Here are some questions to ask your partner:
How do you like to be loved?
What is something that hurt you when you were little that you still carry with you today?
What can I do to love you better?
When we’re in conflict, what is something I can give you to help you feel safe, seen and heard?
What are your dreams?
What are your fears?
To move from the Power Struggle to True Partnership, we have to release any urge to try and make our partner be more like us, and really witness and accept them for who they are.