The abuse must stop. I can say this because I’ve lived through the damaging effects of SELF-abuse and I know there is a way to end it.
When there is disharmony within (war-ing with different parts of yourself) - it is hard to “be still” with yourself…in meditation or simply not being “busy”. When we attempt to force ourselves to “be still” or what we think is reflective, more distress and reactivity actually occurs. Creating safety and ultimately joy within you sometimes takes an alternate approach. Transformation requires a different energy to be present before anything can shift.
I talk a lot about coming home to yourself, but are you a safe place to land? Are you a safe place to be? What’s it like in there? Most likely, the best thing you can do is get out. Out of your own head. You are in an abusive relationship with yourself. And you don’t even realize it. It is affecting your entire world.
I know of a safe and enlivening place to come back to life! My ‘Rising ToGetHer’ group program gives you the map out of abuse and back home to your whole Self. DM me to learn more about the shifts I’ve taken in my own life. I would love to support you in shifting yours…in finding your own way. As I step up for myself, I’m stepping up for you.
Empowered Women, Empower Women. It’s time to take your place. And you cannot do it from victimhood.
What is your authentic self and where did it go? 🤔 Think about yourself as a kid. Likely you remember yourself fondly, as an individual who is curious, playful and creative. 🎨 But as people born into a world full of hierarchies and structure based on control, a lot of our more authentic aspects of ourselves get shutdown and dulled. 😔 To survive in this world means, to an extent, becoming rigid and creating layers of defenses around us. 😬 At the @havengabriola I heard the metaphor of relationships being like two hard, rigid boxes bouncing against each other. Sure, there may be sparks and excitement but that’s also what happens when two metallic, undynamic objects make contact with each other. 🎳 So how can we make ourselves less rigid and more able to connect with others? 🤔 Part of that journey is simply “doing the work” of self-examination and exploration. Learning how our early childhood and other experiences have worked to form who we are today is a crucial step towards a more compassionate understanding of ourselves. ❤️ If we can say to that inner soldier inside of us, the one who protected us and fought for us… if we can say to them “Hi.. thank you for your service; but the war is over now” then maybe we can also finally stand at ease. 🕊 📸: @rox.tography
MAMA EN PAPA TIJD👏🏾❤️
Het gebeurt niet vaak (genoeg), maar gister hadden Michel en ik eindelijk weer even een paar uurtjes samen (zonder kind of wie dan ook!😱) Het was precies wat we nodig hadden na een periode waarin we een beetje in een sleur waren geraakt en beide een beetje ons eigen ding deden. Ongelofelijk hoe belangrijk dit soort momenten zijn. Even een paar uurtjes alleen kunnen zijn met elkaar, kletsen zonder afleiding, doet gewoon echt wonderen. We voelen ons weer een front, want geloof me het is echt niet altijd koek en ei. Dat is het niet als je gewoon een relatie hebt en als ouders al helemaal niet, en ja newsflash; ook voor ons niet. Anyways, we hebben heerlijke diepe gesprekken gehad waar ik zo van hou. En niet te vergeten: we hebben zóóó lekker gegeten bij Picasso in Den Bosch🥣😍!! En ik heb na een lange tijd🤱🏽 weer een lekker glaasje Merlot gedronken🍷. Ik was eigenlijk niet zo lekker en lig nu met griep in bed, maar ben blij dat we dat momentje even hadden. Zo dankbaar🤗
Hoe vaak gaan jullie met zijn tweetjes even er tussen uit? Is dat voor andere mama’s (en papa’s) ook zo een uitzondering (wat het dus niet zo moeten zijn)?!
You can download episodes of Relationship Decoded on ITunes, Apple Podcast, Google Play, Stitcher, and Spotify. You may also go download the Podbean app and listen to us there as well to listen to any if the Episodes.
Please click the link below to take a listen to the first couple episodes.
ITunes link - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/relationship-decoded/id1475730198
Strong female relationships... One of my personal goals for 2020 is to develop one strong female relationship.
You would think being a woman it would be easy 🤷♀️ Think again.
I play much better in the arena with men. Who knows why, but I know there is incredible value in having close and strong relationships with women.
Last week I was introduced to some incredible badass women like @kareenzwalsh who showed me what it looked like to show up hungry, humble and ready to help others.
She is a great example of a woman who values her peers, partner, and continued growth.
This week I developed a few girl crushes 😍 that I hope turn into strong relationships this year.
A fundamental truth in all areas of life, not just #relationships . People want to date, work with, hire, marry, befriend...others who are on a similar journey and who hold similar values. The best way to find your tribe is to be intentional and purposeful with how you show up in the world - as YOURSELF.
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Принадлежать одному единственному мужчине. Взращивать в нем свою ласку и энергию. Питаться его любовью , нежностью и силой. Идти за ним, куда бы не повёл, а уведёт он только туда, где хорошо. Её горячие эмоции и его холодные рассудок; её глубокие чувства и его духовная сила. Это она и он, Yin and Yang, одно дополняющее другое; сплетение двух натур, нашедших свои души в друг друге. #love#relationships#hope#one_life_one_love#Turkey#Ukraine#ukrainian_girl#fall_in_love
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Never stop being interested in your partner or love interest.
You can never know someone entirely, because we are always evolving and growing with every new day. There will always be something new to discover about them! 🤔So stay curious forever.
They will appreciate the 🥰 attention too 😉
Do you want deeper connections and stronger relationships? ⠀
Then you need more vulnerability. ⠀
Brene Brown says, "The definition of vulnerability is uncertainty, risk, and emotional exposure. But vulnerability is not weakness; it's our most accurate measure of courage." ⠀
It does take courage to get past the risk and the uncertainty and to really put yourself out there. ⠀
It is vital that we learn how to do it if we want to deepen our relationships with those we care about.⠀
Listen to the episode and then let me know:⠀
What One Little Thing are you going to do because of what you heard?⠀
Please join us for a special program exploring the dynamics of “Process Addictions” including love and sex addiction, porn addiction, screen addiction, gaming and disordered eating.
Tuesday, February 3, from 5:30-7:30 pm at the Jewish Board of Family and Children’s Services.
This program is co-sponsored by @originsrecovery@centerfordiscovery and @intimacyrecovery. To RSVP, please contact me directly. .
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Posted @withregram • @mummasandbeansltd Let’s be honest whoever says children bring you closer together is living on another planet... yes, it strengthens the bond to your other half but the sleep deprivation, change of lifestyle and a whole load of other factors can put a real strain on relationships...⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Award winning family lawyer, Laura Naser, @thefamilylawyer, has written us a brilliant blog on ‘BABIES, RELATIONSHIPS AND WHAT TO CONSIDER IF YOU’RE FEELING THE STRAIN’. Link in bio👆🏻@mummasandbeansltd⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Laura is also author of ‘A Family Lawyer’s Guide to Separation & Divorce - How To Get What You Both Want’.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
She will be joining us on our Instagram feed for a LIVE on THURSDAY 30th Jan at 8pm - due to legalities she is unable to answer your questions live but head to our stories now, pop in your question and Laura will answer them during the live with no reference to who sent them in!⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
💕 What tips do you have on the juggling act of being parents but still keeping your relationship alive!
Have you ever wished that men came with an instruction manual?
A simple, accurate, step by step booklet that lays out EXACTLY how men think, why they do what they do, and (most of all), how to TALK to a man so you can actually get your needs met?
So you can not only attract the type and quality of men you want, but also KEEP the one you love most of all … … and have that same man desperately in love with irresistible you, for the rest of his life and yours?
Well, that instruction manual is right here. Ckeck out the link in my bio @relationship.ig_
I began reading Harville’s books on relationship nearly a decade ago, and having a chance to work with him in the flesh was a Conscious Relationship nerds dream come true!
Ben and I have engaged in Conscious Relationship, tantra and shadow work together since the inception of our partnership, but there is still so much for us to learn - especially when it comes to communication.
Conscious Partnership is rooted in learning to create safety in your relationship. It’s about seeing your partners wounded inner-child in moments of conflict, or when they aren’t behaving like you would (because we all expect our partner to be like us, even though they are most likely our opposite!)
One of the most beautiful take-aways from this weekend, is that there is almost always a very tender reason for why our partners do what they do - and if we slow down, get curious, and really listen, we can replace our judgements with awe and wonder.
Becoming a Conscious Partner means we are committed to using moments of challenge or struggle as a way to learn more about us and them, and rise in love.