Real growth is when you look the same as you always have, but now you see that person as perfect, and exactly who they are meant to be. ⠀
Real growth is when you have what you've always had, but now it is enough. Real growth is when you stop trying to control situations, and start managing your reactions to them. Real growth is when really nothing around you has changed, and yet everything within you has. ⠀
It's not about waiting until the moment that you have the best of everything, it's about becoming the kind of person who can see the best in anything.
90 4,6165 December, 2019
The most selfless thing you can possibly do is to take care of yourself first.
Everything you want involves other people.⠀
Learning to respect them, coexist with them, connect with them and get along with them is not optional. It is an essential part of the self-development process.⠀
Pushing everyone away because it's not convenient for you is not how you heal.⠀
Sometimes, it's how you cope while you're healing. ⠀
But it isn't, and cannot be, the end goal. ⠀
It's true that you have to be stable and happy as an individual, but it's more true that learning to reintegrate into your family, friends coworkers and community is ultimately how you restore your life.
46 3,2391 December, 2019
If you are afraid of not having enough money, your desire is financial freedom. ⠀
If you are afraid of losing love, your desire is healthy, stable relationships. ⠀
If you are afraid of not having done anything important with your life, your desire is finding purpose in your work, and in your days. ⠀
The truth is that most people know what they really want — they are just too afraid to want it.
125 3,91224 November, 2019
Do you notice what class the characters "belong" to when you read a book?
I have to say I don't particularly but I've just read a few literary reviews of this book and in each one, the class of the author and main character are mentioned. As they're working class, I'm not sure if that's something to be noted or if it's patronising.
I know class still exists but for me, when I read Saltwater, what I noticed was the characterisation which is very strong, I really felt like I knew e main character Lucy and her family.
The novel is a coming of age story where Lucy, grows up in Sunderland (which is in north-east England) as the daughter of an alcoholic father and a mother who can no longer help him.
She then moves to London where she hoped to live a metropolitan debauchery lifestyle - drinking with other working class (can we call them this?) heroes Pete Doherty and Any Winehouse - yet she soon realises it's hard to adapt to her new lifestyle, in particular the financial woes and shifting class identity.
But this novel is primarily about home and all that encapsulates.
Can you "rescue" a loved one from their demons, even when your other parent couldn't?
If you stay in your community, Saltwater describes how there is a diffident life elsewhere, however your heart will always be home.
And if you do leave, although you'll find your sense of self, it might come at a cost of ripping your heart in two.
Thoughts don't generate outcomes, intentions don't generate outcomes, hopes don't generate outcomes. Actions generate outcomes. Thoughts and intentions and hopes can merely motivate us to act. ⠀
In the end, our lives are the culmination of what we do. Not what we wanted to do, not what we would have done, not what we intended to do. We are defined by what we did, whether we felt like it or not.
60 3,58528 November, 2019
really want to buy more coral but told myself i wouldn’t until the move happened 😩
When you're thinking about what you want for this next decade of your life, remember that what you decide on January 1 does not have to be completed by December 31. ⠀
Your annual goals do not have to reflect precisely what you want to accomplish in 365 days. To really be effective, they should be what you want to create in this new chapter — this new decade — however long it takes to arrive. Life-changing work is often not achieved in a few months' time. ⠀
Let go of the limiting timeline. ⠀
Step into the light of what you're ready to create.
39 3,0832 December, 2019
When you make fun of people for the way they look, you don't only insult them, you also teach everyone around you that the thing they need to fear most is not appearing a certain way. When everyone does this, we end up with exactly the society we have.⠀
It's why we have people walking around more afraid of not looking good enough than being a good enough person. More concerned with being in style than actually being decent to others. More afraid of being judged for whether or not they aged well than whether or not they got wiser, stronger, or made a difference in the world.⠀
I'm not saying you have to like everyone. I'm saying that if your reasons for not liking someone is the way they look — the problem is you.
This large serving bowl made by @wrennpottery is mermaid approved! 🧜♀️👍🌊
Can you see the the subtle variations in the white glaze inside and the creamy glaze along the top of the bowl? It’s as if it’s been sun-kissed and cured by saltwater. 😍