Y es que esta es una de las primeras cosas con las que te das cuenta que no volverás a ser la misma.
Y es que una cosa es ver que estas subiendo de peso por tu pancita de embarazo y otra el shock de ver que la memoria de ti misma sobre tu cuerpo a quedado muy muy atrás. Lo bueno es que el cuerpo es muy sabio y puede retomar su forma si le hechamos un poquito la mano.
Otra de las cosas que te muestran que tu vida ya no será la misma son los desvelos, despertar cada tres horas es agotador piensas: ¿Cómo alguien puede vivir así? Esto al principio es completamente normal y lo vas prosesando, pero todo tiene un tiempo y momento, te digo con todo el respaldo científico y profesional que este episodio agotador puede terminar al cumpmir los 6 meses tu pequeño, su cuerpo y cerebro están listos para poder unir sus ciclos de sueño y dormir toda la noche. Una madre descansada es una madre que puede manejar mejor los retos de la maternidad y una madre más feliz que puede amar mejor a sus hijos.
I’m giving away a free phone consultation worth $250! ♡
This includes a full assessment, a personalised sleep plan, up to 1 hour on the phone with me to talk through the plan together and 2 weeks of follow up support as you implement the changes we’ve discussed to help your little one sleep like a dream!
Here’s what you need to do:
✨ Make sure you like this page - @justinekinsellasleepconsultant
✨ Tag your mama friends in the comments section of this post - each tag will give you another entry into the competition and therefore a higher chance of winning!
I’ll announce the winner on Sunday 27th October.
Best of luck! xo
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Traveling with babies. There are SO many factors to take into account. And with the holidays I know it’s on your mind! ⠀
Whether it’s heading to family only 15 minutes away, or a full-on, globe-trotting trek, your kiddo will need to sleep, and here’s how to help them do so. ⠀
1️⃣ Know when to go. If you’ve got a full day of driving ahead of you, and you have to leave first thing in the morning, then that’s what you’ve got to do. If you have any lee-way, leaving during nap time can potentially help your kiddo get their shut eye in the car on-the-go. It won’t be their best nap, by far, but travel = survival. Flying? Check out my stories today for ALL of my best plane-travel advice. ⠀
2️⃣Bring the stuff. Got your white noise machine?✔️Tin foil, dark sheets & push pins, or Slumberpod?✔️Sleep sack?✔️Pack n’ play?✔️⠀
3️⃣Have a plan. Will you be sharing a room with your little one? I highly advise the Slumberpod. Will you be able to let your little one protest as they fall asleep / get used to their new environment? THIS is a biggy. Many of my families aren’t prepared for their little ones’ sleep to go off the rails when on vacation. There’re a myriad of reasons this happens! Ie. room sharing when they were used to being alone, a new, different place, hard-to-control sleep environment, new, exciting experiences they have FOMO over, etc. It can be so tempting to pull baby into bed with you, and no one wants to hear criticism from their family... (“Oh, I thought you said your baby was ‘trained’?”🙄)But if you can prepare in advance you will be a huge step ahead of the game! ⠀
4️⃣Practice makes perfect. If baby doesn’t sleep in a pack n play at home, have them start sleeping there 3-7 days in advance of your trip so they are used to it before you ever leave home.⠀
5️⃣Remember life happens. Again, travel = survival. If things end up less than perfect, know that when you get back home, you can get everything back on track in a matter of days. Sometimes re-training is necessary, but it can definitely be done. ⠀
You got this! Now tell me where you’re going for the holidays, and share any travel secrets you’ve discovered for baby or otherwise!!⠀
4 908 hours ago
The other day I was cruising another sleep coach's website. Honestly.. I rarely do this. But other entrepreneurs know.. sometimes you gotta do some market research! 😂 .
And what I saw was this other sleep coach telling families that their babies absolutely WILL not feel abandoned during a controlled crying process, because they're checking on them every 5 mins. 🙈 .
Okay friends. I'm the first one to say, I get it. Because I've been there. I went against all of my instincts with my first kiddo in the name of more sleep. But here's the thing.. .
This "fact" is BS. Babies do not have fully developed object permanence until at least 9 months of age.. and arguably it's not solidified til 18 months. 😱 So when you leave... and come back... your baby really has no clue where you've gone. You could be on another planet for all they know. We are talking about babies who cant find pens when you've hid them under your hand. How do you expect they know where you are and when you'll be back? .
Our children learn "self regulation" from a place of cued care.. that is watching how caring adults show up for them in times of adversity or difficulty, helping them through that, and getting to the other side of that emotion together. .
Does this mean our kiddos should never cry? No no no.. not what I'm saying. But our kiddos learn from watching us every single day. And responding physically or emotionally (ideally both) to a crying child does make a difference. I know your heart tells you it does, the science does too! 🙏 .
Anywho.. I'll get off my soap box now. The good news is the market research is DONE and my new offering is going to be ready very soon. I cant wait! 😍
10 308 hours ago
Because family and work should coexist, happily. ⠀
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I am proud to be an approved Moms on Maternity partner. We can do so much more together. @momsonmaternity⠀
För barn 0-4 månader är mat och beskydd grunden till att känslan av trygghet ska växa. Känslan av trygghet är nyckeln till god sömn för det nyfödda barnet. Maten och ditt beskydd (att du ger din bebis din uppmärksamhet) är superviktigt. • •
Mat påverkar sömnen - sömnen påverkar hur mycket bebis orkar äta. •😴🍼
MAT+BESKYDD= TRYGGHET =SANT
Barn från 4 månader och äldre: •
•Runt 4 månader börjar det bli VIKTIGT ATT DU TALAR OM FÖR BEBIS ATT DÅ LÄMNAR RUMMET. Använd din röst utanför barnets rum eller där du befinner dig. DÅ GER DU BEBIS KONTROLL och ur kontrollen växer känslan av trygghet som i som tur ger goda förutsättningar att sova gott och tillräckligt. •
Hjälp din bebis att närma sig sömnen men LÄMNA BEBIS INNAN HEN SOVER. Då har barnet kontroll på var du är och ur den kontrollen växer känslan av trygghet. •
MAT+BESKYDD+KONTROLL= TRYGGHET =SANT
This year alone, about 260,000 new cases of breast cancer will be diagnosed in women. Breast cancer occurs when cells divide and grow without their normal control. The most common signs of breast cancer are a change in the look or feel of the breast or the nipple. In recognition of October being Breast Cancer Awareness Month, we want to encourage you all to routinely conduct self exams and keep up with your annual check ups in an attempt to detect early breast cancer. Breast cancer at the early stage is very treatable and survivable.
Scientists at the Center for Interdisciplinary Research in Biology (CNRS/Collège de France/INSERM) have shown that delta waves emitted while we sleep are not generalized periods of silence during which the cortex rests, as has been described for decades in the scientific literature.
Instead, they isolate assemblies of neurons that play an essential role in long-term memory formation. While we sleep, the hippocampus reactivates itself spontaneously by generating activity similar to that while we are awake.
It sends information to the cortex, which reacts in turn. This exchange is often followed by a period of silence called a 'delta wave' then by rhythmic activity called a 'sleep spindle.' This is when the cortical circuits reorganize to form stable memories.
The researchers discovered, surprisingly, that the cortex is not entirely silent but that a few neurons remain active and form assemblies, i.e. small, coactive sets that code information.
In addition, the assemblies activated during the delta waves are formed of neurons that have participated in learning a spatial memory task during the day. Together these elements suggest that these processes are involved in memory consolidation.
I used to think little snoring babies were the absolute cutest. After all, what better indicator is there that your little one is fast asleep, dreaming away than the sound of them purring in their crib?
Let’s talk toddlers! I’ve talked to a few mamas in the last couple of weeks who thought that just because they “waited too long” to attempt new sleep habits with their little ones, that it was “no use” and that they’d just have to continue waking up multiple times every single night until they “grew out of it.” Do. Not. Wait. Any. Longer. Is it harder to get your little one into better sleep habits the older they get? Yes, sometimes. Is it worth it? Without a doubt! Look. Maybe you’ve gone 2, 3, or even 4 years with your kiddo who still isn’t sleeping well. Trust me, you’re not the only one! If nothing has worked and you’ve reached a point where you know you can’t go any longer being this sleep deprived (or you don’t want to get to that point in the first place), schedule a FREE 15-minute call with me (link in bio). Or DM me! Don’t go another day wondering when it’ll miraculously get easier. You need your sleep. Your babies need their sleep. And I’m here to help. #toddlers#toddlersleep#toddlersleepcoach#sleepcoach#gentlesleeptraining#sleeptrainingtips#sleeptraining#tiredmama#tiredmumsclub#tiredmamasunite#mytoddlerdoesntsleep#helpmesleep
0 1112 hours ago
Important reminder for those of us in the more northern latitudes! It’s that time of year when the days are getting shorter and darker — quickly. It sneaks up on people, I find. I notice it myself every year. I start feeling way more tired, and on the grey and wet days, way more gloomy. This year, with an night-waking 8 month old baby, the morning exhaustion is particularly acute! But I know it’s not just me. Because in my counselling office, it never fails. Every year, around mid October, person after person arrives and tells me that they’re just feeling so blah lately, that they’re so tired and not sure what’s wrong, that they just don’t feel great and don’t know why. I always tell them... I know why. It’s this time of year. Even if you don’t suffer from full on SAD (seasonal affective disorder) you are still subject to the seasonal changes. For me, knowing that it’s inevitable and not something “wrong” with me is reassuring. I go to bed earlier, I take extra vitamin D, and I try to let myself slow down. We aren’t meant to bloom year round. It’s the season of dark, of rest, of renewal so that we have rebuilt our stores come next spring. It’s okay. ❤️
We all remember a few months ago when Harry and Meghan introduced baby Archie to the world only two days post-partum. One of the only five questions asked to the couple at the time was: “is he sleeping ok? Good baby?”
Today, in a contrast to the first interview, a short extract of a documentary by @itvnews shows Meghan, the new mum and wife, in a completely vulnerable state, like so many of us are after childbirth.
The question this time was about Meghan’s physical and mental health, rather than the baby’s sleeping habits. This is the one question you SHOULD ask a new mum, but as Meghan herself confirmed, it rarely gets asked.
“Are YOU ok?”
“Is there anything I can do for YOU?”
People often get obsessed about the baby and forget about the mum, the dad.
The first question is the reason why our society believes:
good babies sleep, bad babies don’t,
good babies comply, bad babies throw tantrums,
good babies smile, bad babies cry,
good babies allow life to carry on as normal, bad babies disrupt your life and turn everything upside-down.
This poor language must change, babies are babies, they are not good or bad.
Today’s interview with @tom.bradby gives us hope that when the right question is asked, mothers will receive the support they deserve to cope with the struggles of motherhood and continue to care for their babies without the pressures of feeling validated by how well they sleep.
2 3614 hours ago
One important piece to setting up successful sleep for newborns, is knowing their cues.
Babies give nonverbal signs to let you know they are starting to get tired or are overtired.
Once they have moved into the late tired signs, this is their overtired mode which produces cortisol and adrenaline. This makes settling and resettling your newborn super hard.
**notice that yawning is a late tired sign.
Make sure you share and tag any mama that needs these signs 😀😀
Check out our free newborn class for more tips on assisting a newborn with sleep.
8 2214 hours ago
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You might not know that there really is ONE big bedtime mistake that I see parents making over and over that’s preventing their baby from not only falling asleep easily but staying asleep throughout the night.
Visit any baby site on the Web, search for “my baby won’t sleep,” or any phrase you would use, and you'll discover that almost every single site will tell you about the importance of a bedtime routine. ✨
So will I.
I think a bedtime routine is a crucial first step in creating predictability for your baby. It teaches her that it’s time to make a transition from day into night.
Even adults have our favorite bedtime routines, right? Pay attention to your routine for a few nights, it’s almost always the same and we don’t even recognize it! Pretty cool, huh? ✨
Without these routines, we would feel a little uncomfortable and worry about whether or not we would fall asleep easily. ✨
Our adult bedtime routine is important to us (just try to not do a part of it one night and see how hard it is to fall asleep!). So imagine how important it is to an infant or small child who is still learning how to do everything the right way. ✨
And, this is where parents keep making the number one bedtime mistake.
Most of the time parents skip right over it. “Oh, a bedtime routine, right. Sure. Next problem?” because we’ve heard it so often. ✨
But the biggest mistake that parents make is that somewhere in the routine, the baby sleeps!
I bet you’ve heard that your baby should have a bath, so you’re going to do a bath, you’re going to get jammies on, you're going to read a story, and then you’re going to do a feeding. ✨
There's the snag..link in bio for more.
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1 315 hours ago
DEALING WITH THE TIME CHANGE⏰
Well it’s here. Every parent’s favorite time of year. The dreaded time change. 🤪 We can thank good ol’ Ben Franklin for this one. While Ben is known for his many wonderful inventions, the time change is one I that I can’t get on board with. I’d love to do away with it all together, but sadly, I don’t make the rules. So, rather than fuss, here’s some advice to minimize the disruption of your child’s sleep!
If you have an easy-going angel baby, you may find that the time change really isn’t THAT big of deal. An easy-going child may not fuss when put to bed an hour later than normal and will quietly wait in the crib for an extra hour in the morning, happily babbling or singing until someone comes in to get them. After a day or two, the new time will become the norm and no one in the house will think about it again, until the next time change. Lucky you with your angel baby.
However, this is not the norm and many children need a helpful nudge in the right direction. You can begin by changing the time in 15 minute intervals. For example, if your little one normally goes down to sleep at 7pm, after the time change, even though the clock says 7pm, it will feel to your child like 8pm. It’s important to ignore the clock and think about it from the child’s perspective. Why am I being put to bed an hour later? My recommendation is to begin to transition in that direction. Start by putting your little one down at 7:15pm for a few days, then at 7:30pm the next few days, then 7:45pm and then finally, put your child down at 8pm. For the mornings, follow a similar process, even if they wake up a little bit early. Again, each day transition back 15 minutes.
I know it can be a pain, but remember, everyone will adjust. It may just take a few days to get back on track. Be patient! If you were planning to start some sleep training in the near future, you may choose to hold off until your little one adjust to the time.😴💤
How we talk influences how we feel. We live in a society that prioritises independence, even for very young children and babies, and our language reflects that. This cultural obsession of ours disregards biological norms, and instead tells us that our babies ‘should’ be independent. .
Phrases like ‘sleep crutch’ are used to make you feel that the support you give to your baby to help them fall asleep isn’t necessary, and can and should be stopped to make them independent. But how would you feel about taking away feeding or cuddling to sleep, or giving a dummy or rocking, if we gave it a different name? What if we call it what it really is - comfort. Would you still feel like it was unnecessary, or that you were doing your baby a disservice by standing in the way of them “learning to be independent”? Or would you feel like you’re giving your baby exactly what they need?
Because the truth is that sleep and independence can’t be taught - they’re developmental. Your baby will sleep by themselves when they’re ready. And in the meantime, the work you’re putting in is shaping your baby, creating the building blocks for that independence to grow.
I love this quote about naps: "We want nap time to be a pleasant oasis in the middle of a busy day--not a time when you have to struggle to get your child to fall asleep." -The Baby Sleep Book by Dr. Sears
For many of us naps will involve some crying. In this video I give you a new way to think about crying around naps that may help you struggle less.
Follow me to for more child sleep videos and learn how to create your own nap time oasis by scheduling a free 15-minute consultation with me today!
It's often a misconception that if we teach our little one to sleep independently in the crib, that means we will be chained to the crib - and the house. 🏠
However, this isn’t actually case. When your child has independent sleep skills they’re able to use them in many different places! 😴
Whether it be the car, carrier or setting up the pack n play at a friends - it gives you the comfort in knowing your child will be able to sleep when they’re tired and when you want to be on the go! 👌
When working with clients, I always encourage them to have some naps on the go so that then their child is able to master that skill too!
Where’s the most common place your baby naps?
5 3819 October, 2019
♡ A few practical tips to help your baby with reflux ♡
✨ Feed baby in an upright position so their head is higher than their stomach. Gravity can assist milk down your baby’s esophagus.
✨ Keep your baby upright for 20 - 30 mins after a feed where possible. This is where feeding when they wake up from a nap (not just before you lie them down) can really help.
✨ Burp frequently!
✨ Try a good probiotic. Talk to your doctor or local pharmacist for advice on this.
✨ Offer a dummy if you want. The sucking can help ease pain by increasing saliva and downward contractions of the esophagus.
Please talk to your doctor if you think your baby might have reflux.
0 319 October, 2019
⭐️BIG ANNOUNCEMENT⭐️ .
You may or may not know that we worked with @littlewinkssleep to get our sweet boys to SLEEP. I have always joked but was mostly serious that sleep is my main love language (along with cheese of course) and so when the opportunity to become a certified Sleep Coach working with Little Winks! .
I leave on Sunday for training and I am SO EXCITED! I’ll be updating my stories here but also if you want some sleep tips and tricks or just want to cheer me on follow me at @bonnie_lwscoach ! I would LOVE to have your support! ❤️
And if you have a little one that isn’t sleeping let me help! I never thought our kids would sleep, but now they are happier, more confident, and more in control of their bodies! Sleep is so crucial to human function! 🙌🏻
9 4019 October, 2019
One of the ways to help your child with sleep troubles is putting her/him on an age apropriate time schedule. Besides that, you should always be aware of your baby's sleep cues.
Most of us know about eyes or nose rubbing, yawning, but what else? I will give you some hints that may help you to understand your baby's language. Here is a list of other common cues:
1. They are cranky. Something is not right for your child. He/she wants something, but doesn't know what and nothing makes them happy. They are uncomfortable. This mood might end up as a cry.
2. They need you more, your closeness, they are huggy or cuddly.
3. They are more clumsy than usual.
4. Making a sound and repeating it over and over as mantra.
5. Pulling or scratching ears, playing with hair,rubbing their head.
If you see any of these cues, react before your baby is overtired.
👉🏻 Para México 🇲🇽 pronto habrá cambio de horario... ⏰ en la madrugada 🌙 del sábado 26 de octubre para amanecer el domingo 27 de octubre 📆, se atrasar una hora tu reloj (a las 2:00am será la 1:00am).⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Aquí un ejemplo del nuevo horario; Si tu bebe se duerme💤 a las 7:30pm 😴y se despierta a las 7:00am y con el cambio de horario se levantará UNA HORA MÁS TEMPRANO, ósea a las 6:00am 😳. para las que somos mamás esto representa todo un reto 🧟♀; mas nos vale prepararnos.‼⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
¿Cómo hacer para que la transición sea más fácil en el cambio de horario?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Debemos empezar a mover de forma gradual su Reloj Biológico Interno desde antes para que sea mas fácil la transición para ellos al nuevo horario. 👉🏻 6 días antes del cambio de horario comienza a acostar a tus hijos 10 ⏰ minutos más tarde cada día (esto aplica también en siestas 💤, horarios de alimentación🥦 y rutinas) esto es poco a poco para no sobre cansarlos.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
👉🏻 Por ejemplo:👈🏻 ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Si tus hijos se duermen a las 8:00pm, ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
🔹empiezas el 21 de octubre acostándolos a 8:10pm⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
🔹el 22 de octubre a las 8:20pm⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
🔹el 23 de octubre a las 8:30pm⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
🔹el 24 de octubre a las 8:40pm⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
🔹el 25 de octubre a las 8:50pm⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
🔹el 26 de octubre a las 9:00pm⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Para mayores de 3 años, lo puedes hacer en bloques de 30 minutos. ⏰⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
👀 Recuerden que algunos niños son muy sensibles a cambios en sus horarios, si tu hijo es de estos se paciente en unos días esta adaptado de nuevo. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #AmormirSC#Amormir#AmormirSleepCoach#AsesoraDeSueñoInfantil#SleepCoach#consultoradesueño#SleepCoaching #sueñoinfantil#habitosdesueño#CómoEnseñarleadormiramibebé#ayúdalosadormirmejor#Noduerme#mamaprimeriza#cambiodehorario#horariodeinvierno
Such a controversial topic. We are mostly lovers of sleep, I don’t know many people that are sleep haters. We all want it and need it. BUT I totally understand why some people hate the topic of “how to actually get sleep”. It’s so confusing out there. Everyone gives you an opinion. You get Mum guilt when you try do things that don’t work. It can just seem all too hard. It’s such a controversial topic because those of us who are exhausted and sleep deprived get sick of reading and hearing about the well rested families with the babies who sleep like a dream. It’s also controversial because you might not agree with certain expert advice or practices other people follow and that’s okay you don’t have to.
I’ll keep it super simple. Everyone can have more sleep if that’s what you want.
If you are reading a sleep book and you don’t like it put it down. If you’ve been given advice from someone and it doesn’t sit right with you then forget it. If you are overwhelmed in knowing what to do then take a break from thinking about it and reassess when it feels like the right time. Be happy for the Mums who are getting rest, they need it. You can have it to when and if you want it you’ve just got to be ready to review your situation and make positive changes.
I am thrilled to have Tamara Elliot, a NICU nurse from @chocchildrens guest speaking with me at my Tuesday, October 22nd Gentle Sleep Solutions and Sleep Basics at @capwellnesscenter/Encinitas.
Tamara has over 20 years with adult, pediatric and neonatal intensive care, general and pediatric emergency and trauma and has a lot of experience to draw from when it comes to safe sleep.
Register today for this hour long workshop that provides a comfortable environment for a small group of parents to get together and learn how to gently solve your children’s sleep problems. In this workshop, we’ll cover general sleep education and the science and behavioral “must knows.” Topics include common problems, how to solve them and the secret to sleep coaching success... all while keeping tears to a minimum. $35.00 per couple. #linkinprofile
1 2518 October, 2019
Want to know the best part? This isn't even staged 🤣 My dear autumn child napped snuggled up to a pumpkin 🎃
👀 have a spooky bedside visitor in the early morning hours? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Waking early in the morning is common for children but it doesn’t mean they are “done” with sleep for the night. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Ever start your toddlers day at 5 am and notice just how cranky they are that afternoon? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Throughout the night your child will transition from different sleep cycles especially in the early morning hours and at that time of day, many things can awaken your child. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
If your child is waking after less than 10 hours of sleep there are few reasons. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
• Environmental • install blackout shades in your child’s room to eliminate outside light from signaling your child awake before he or she is ready to wake. Unwanted noise? Place a sound machine in or right outside of your child’s room to block out the noise. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
• Schedule • is bedtime too early or late?
Most often moving your child’s bedtime earlier will help with early wakings since overtiredness in children is fairly common. However if you’ve got a solid routine and there’s still a nap you might consider a slightly later bedtime. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
• Behavioral change • if you find yourself playing the game of “one more” or boundaries seem to have shifted, its time to make bedtime boundaries and expectations crystal clear so your toddler understands what’s expected of them and be sure to follow through on those expectations. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
• Is it morning yet? • Toodler clocks are hands down the best tool in teaching your child when it’s morning time. Choose one that doesn’t have distracting lights or music during sleep but will que them when it’s ok to rise. Explain the expectations and even practice using the clock before your first night. .
Body Autonomy. (This is a slight deviation on my usual infant sleep topics, but it’s an important topic to consider as a mama!)
Most of us have been there at some stage. An uncle giving us a whiskery kiss, an aunt pinching our cheeks, a cousin being too rough with us. And we probably walked away feeling uncomfortable, skin crawling a little, but brushing it off because our parents were there, watching, not commenting.
So it must have been acceptable and we were overreacting, right?
If it made you feel uncomfortable, it was not right. It was not acceptable.
While intentions were almost certainly good, they were misplaced.
As parents, our priority is to protect our children and raise them with healthy boundaries. Which includes demonstrating that it is OK to say NO. This can and should be done right from infancy.
It is healthy to set boundaries.
It is vital to set boundaries.
To begin with, we need to role model and speak for our littles, and then help them learn the words and choices available to them, so that they can make their own decisions.
This could involve stepping between your little and someone they’re greeting, and saying “pumpkin, would you like to give Aunty xyz a hug or a high five?”. It could also mean asking your little one before tickling or kissing them yourself.
It could mean ensuring drs ask before examining your child, and letting relatives know that there’s no excuse for a physical contact without consent.
It’s time to raise a generation of children who know that body autonomy and consent are the norm. Boys and girls. Their bodies, their choices.
This is a very broad but quite helpful little chart. It helps you see around how long baby should be awake before needing the next nap.
Why does this matter? Because this way you can help baby learn to fall asleep by themselves more easily, and you'll avoid having an overtired baby.
If you want to know more about this and see a more specific sleep chart look for it on my blog. It's kind of an old one... So I'll link it to my bio in a bit. Please remind me if I forget to, kids are about to need me this morning.
Btw there's supposed to be a best time to post according to ig analytics. For me it's before I get the kiddos out of their cribs 🤷😅. Hope I reach you all anyway! & If you have more sleep questions, head over to my story today! It's Q+A Wednesday!
😴 GUARDA ESTE POST 😴
¿Te has preguntado cuántas siestas debería tomar tu bebé al día?
Todo depende de la edad, del ambiente donde esté y del comportamiento del bebé. Aunque unos niños necesitan dormir más que otros, así tengan la misma edad, esta tabla puede servirte como referencia acerca de la cantidad de siestas por día y el tiempo que normalmente duermen los bebés y niños.
Recuerda, la calidad del sueño de tu bebé no afecta sólo a su salud, sino también al bienestar de toda la familia.👨👩👧👦💤
Un dato extra: Las siestas de los bebés más importantes son alrededor de las 9 am y a las 12 del mediodía, de 1 hora y media, más o menos, es el sueño más reparador.
161 1,62913 October, 2019
Did you know interrupted sleep can be the FIRST symptom of an ear infection?
Yes, initially, it can be the ONLY symptom!
Even if a baby seems perfectly fine during the day, NEW and SUDDEN interrupted sleep may be a result of an ear infection!
➡️️Why? Because ear pain can get exponentially worse when a baby is lying down flat because of the increased pressure on the eardrum.
Other signs you might not be looking for that can also be a sign of an ear infection:
✅ runny nose (even clear drainage)
✅ eye drainage (goopy or even just watery )
An amazing benefit of having a great sleeper: You know “off nights” can actually mean something is up. The only way to know for sure is to visit the doctor.
*️⃣Important: A rough night does NOT always mean your baby has an ear infection. Just know that if your nights are ALL OF A SUDDEN rough, it can be an important prompt to explore the idea! (See today’s stories!)
Is sleep so ROUGH you wouldn’t even notice a difference in your nights if a new sleep disruption occurred?? We have the solution to help your baby sleep!! (Link to classes in bio).
What about sleep when littles are sick? Check out the blog “Baby Sleep and Sick Season.” (Link in stories!)
Has this happened to you? Your only clue of an ear infection was nights suddenly going from great to off? What other tips or products have you used to help your sick baby be comfortable and feel loved?
Love this #Repost from @glowingheartssleepco:⠀
I saw a post in our Baby-Led Sleep Facebook group (if you’re not part of the community be sure to join!) where a mom was looking for tips on how to put her tiny baby down “drowsy but awake”. Quickly the other parents in the group jumped in to let her know things like “it’s a myth” or agreeing with her that they also were struggling with this. So I wanted to take a moment to remind everyone out there that you do NOT need to put your baby down "drowsy but awake" because some book told you to do so. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Babies are DEPENDENT beings. Most of them NEED to be supported to sleep by a parent. Most of them CANNOT do drowsy but awake. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Please do not stress yourself out or feel like a failure if your baby is not able to go down drowsy but awake. Most babies cannot do this. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
It's such an unrealistic expectation and burden placed on parents. I don't think I've ever asked a parent to lay their baby down drowsy but awake because it just doesn't work. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
But wait.. why do all the books suggest it then? Where is the disconnect? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Most main stream sleep books (the ones that love talking all about sleep training) tend to view sleep as a behavioural issue. When you look at sleep simply at a behaviour, you feel the need to "teach" the baby how to fall asleep. But sleep is not something we need to teach our children. It's a natural function that they are born with the ability to do like eating and eliminating. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
When you look at sleep holistically and understand that babies can get to sleep when they are in a place of calm and have any barriers to sleep removed, you can really let go of this pressure that we unnecessarily put on new families. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
So forget drowsy but awake and cuddle your babies instead <3
213 3,4851 October, 2019
Had to share this graphic from @talkin.sleep because it’s SO good! ⠀
It can be really confusing to navigate all of the information and misinformation out there and figure out what we CAN and CAN’T control regarding how our child is sleeping. ⠀
The truth is that we do not have total control over our child. We shouldn’t! They are their own unique little person. Accepting that and focusing on the things we can control and letting go what we can’t, can make our lives a little easier.
71 1,5204 September, 2019
THIS. But just because we are living in a really difficult time and society to be a new mother or new parent does not also mean that we should shield new parents from accurate information about infant sleep and development. New mothers need to be educated about the changes that are going on with their bodies and how to heal. We need to be informed about how babies actually sleep and eat and what is normal. But we also need more support. We need a village. We were never meant to parent in isolation. We cannot continue to let parents enter into new parenthood completely blindsided by the reality of it. This education and preparation needs to start during pregnancy. ⠀
Did you know that I have a postpartum recovery eCourse called Prepared Postpartum? We cover the important things every soon to be mother needs to know about optimizing recovery, pelvic health, mental health, ergonomics, nutrition and more! Are you already a mama? It’s still great for you! Many mothers have unresolved issues from the postpartum period that continue to affect them for months, and even years if they go unresolved. Link in bio! ⠀
122 6,06622 August, 2019
Turns out I'm doing a loottt of things I said I would NEVER do... I guess it's just part of the circle of life.
What's something you said you'd NEVER do but hey look at you now?