Domestic violence - “violent or aggressive behavior within the home, typically involving the violent abuse of a spouse or partner.” I’m not proud of the decision that I made of hurting someone I love. She is someone special to me but I didn’t treat her the way a queen should be treated. I hurt her physically and emotionally. I damaged her so bad that it was bound to happened of sending me to jail and pay for the consequences I’ve caused. 14 years with a strong individual, beautiful, and creative woman that deal with the bullshit from me. She is a positive person and driven to help change people lifes through fitness. @sdbrittfit is a survivor of domestic violence. No matter what, I’m supportive of her movement and she is free from the headaches she went through.
Not going to lie, this wasn’t an easy post for me to post and admit what I’ve done to a woman that didn’t deserve that at all. To be honest I’m still hurting but this is the route that I took and I definitely learn from my mistakes. I want to apologize to @sdbrittfit for the damage I’ve cause and not loving you for you and hurting my best friend. I am proud of you and will continue to support you. #changelives
I do want to S/O to: @rawmanafit@idaveimau@kalihiboi80@leinalynn@email@example.com_better_body@sdbrittanydc
And everyone that I didn’t mention your name, but do appreciate y’all for the support and listening to me and not judging me for what I’ve cause in this particular matter.
Never will forget my own family. Mom, dad and k1-k6.
Always appreciate my family for supporting me in getting better mentally and emotionally. And just love me for me.
As I continue to hear people talk about wanting to be “productive”, I thought this was an interesting take on performance. According to Dr. Chris Harwood, there are 5 parts to the mental skills needed for optimal performance:
1. Commitment: the ability to put in effort and be persistent when working to improve (how much do you want to complete this task?) 2. Communication: positive and proactive communication with others (are there supports you’re not accessing?) 3. Concentration: the ability to block distractions and focus or remain on task (are you doing things one thing at a time? What’s distracting you? Can this be a moment of being mindful and focusing on the present, most immediate task?) 4. Control: being able to moderate stress, and work with your own thoughts and feelings (do you feel in control of how you’re feeling?) 5. Confidence: acting without fear of making mistakes (what’s the positive affirmation you need at a moment like this to complete the task?) These mental skills can support us in our performance. Most importantly, if we take a look at each of these different parts, I believe you can see that the end result isn’t about “being productive” and more about “knowing yourself and being comfortable with what you’re capable of”
Aprendo a sostenerme a mí misma, encontrar equilibrio, la fuerza, mi poder femenino, poner el corazón sin importar el resultado, ser flexible, reinventarme una y mil veces, cambiar de plan, levantarme, dejarme guiar y acompañar, amarme y apapacharme mucho, confiar en el caos y el orden natural de la vida, dejo de esconderme y apuntar mis defectos, veo cada experiencia como una oportunidad para ser más congruente, más feliz, más plena, me amo completita, me cuido, me aplaudo mis triunfos y me reconozco como un ser de luz y una mujer de amor, aprendo a sostenerme a mi misma. ✨ #yoga#yogamex #pinchamayurasana #yogaforlife#therapy#selflove#lettertomyself#movement#balance#armbalance#equilibrio#yogaasana#yogaonline
My therapist asks me about the cause of my trauma, and in the middle of my sentence, my voice falters and any I find that my ability to form words has suddenly stopped. Between gasps and tears, I force my mouth to form the words I so desperately need to speak .
This happened about a decade ago and was baffling to me .
I didn't have a stroke, I wasn't having a panic attack, I wasn't dissociating, and my mind was totally clear. It was as if my mouth just popped off my face like a traumatized Mr. Potato head .
I NOW know my speechlessness wasn't a unique experience at all .
Turns out, the brain will shut down its speech center if it gets heavily triggered . (Brain nerds - it's because the prefrontal cortex shuts down as the isocortex activates) .
If you've ever been SO emotional (which includes anger) that you can't form words, you've had the same thing happen .
I absolutely believe in divine timing! I had an uncontrollably emotional day yesterday. And this morning a Red Robin stopped by my window and reminded me to pour into myself and heal! So today I had my first harvest of the season ... MUSTARD GREENS!!! Picking them, soaking them in water & vinegar & cooking them gave me so much joy! I started these babies on March 18th from seed indoors and made dinner with them today! There’s absolutely nothing like growing your food from seed - therapy & sovereignty! GRATITUDE!
The last "big" birthday celebration i had was back in 2010. Half the people at the party are no longer my friends... we don't even talk.
The other half divided into my closest buds and people that have been slowly but consistently drifting away.
This year my birthday will be the smallest affair ever, but i'll be fine ♥
My mental health is the best it's been in years, so i think i'll cope alright ✌
Wish you the best, sweet humans 😘
Love and cookies for everyone 🍪💕
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✨ Hope you enjoy this, forgiveness is one of the keys you need to inner happiness.
BeWellPBC is honored to introduce to you our Community Connectors! What is a Community Connector? They are Palm Beach County residents that engage the community with systems online to have meaningful conversations and keep our community in the know of what is happening.
Today we introduce @tkowednesday. TK is a resident of Delray Beach. She's a Co Founder of a tech startup named Menergi that connects institutional donors to minority lead nonprofits, and diverse communities to support. She is also an avid traveler and has traveled to 23 different countries.
For Mental Health Awareness Month, TK is honoring her mental health by putting her phone on do not disturb. This ensures that she can get a good nights rest. 😴 📱
Psychology Today lists 6 ways that night time phone use can interrupt our sleep. These include taking longer to fall asleep, delaying circadian clock rhythm, suppressing melatonin secretion, decreasing REM sleep, and making us more alert when we want to wind down and less alert when we wake up.
I know I’ll be following TK’s tutorial tonight!!!
What is the point of all these emotions? Positive emotions have the power to motivate you; you are more likely to try something new, or continue a hobby that feels you with a sense of excitement, happiness, and contentment. On the other hand, negative emotions may make you avoid situations that could cause feelings of anxiety, sadness, or boredom. What things do you enjoy that makes you feel good? What things do you avoid to minimize negative emotions?
May you be fearless in the pursuit of what makes sets your soul on fire. Being fearless doesn't meaning be unfraid or not having fears, you can be fearless whilst having doubts and fears. What makes you fearless is living in spite of those fears, being aware of your fears but being so fierce that you face those fears. Don't let your fears stop you from unlocking your true potential and working towards your passion. Be so fearless, you inspire others.
Today was a good and slightly exhausting day. I completed my daily exercise regimen indoors and outdoors with alm of my patients today. After being laid off and not being able to work for more than 2 months, I didn't realize how much I missed providing physical therapy treatments. I love helping others and enjoy my career path to becoming a surgeon. Someday I hope to be a part of a research team to help cure neurological diseases.
We mourn the lives lost and mistreated by policing and the criminal justice system today in Minneapolis. We mourn the people hurting, feeling anger and fear - often coinciding emotions. Whatever you are feeling, we hope that you can talk through these feelings with a loved one. Meebie wishes that you all stay safe, and that Minneapolis can unite once again with love and gratitude towards its people once tensions dissolve. Grieving is a natural response to community-felt pain, and Meebie doesn’t want to take the side of the oppressor. We are speaking out to send love and gentleness to those who need that right now. Minneapolis stands together. #playtherapy#play#therapy#grief#sadness#anger#police#minneapolis#unite#heal#love#community#compassion
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Our hearts cry
It's our heart's cry
At least the ones still with a beat,
The ones not beaten down on the streets
Dealt with harshly and knelt on
They spread our blood like (they spread) gray pupon
Death and abuse, without dignity
From being battered and bruised, its sickening
Too many Fears too many tears
For the number of our years have been torn from our flesh
For a number of years that's exactly what you would expect
They fired a football player who took a knee for what he believed
Fired some cops who took a knee with no grief
I guess they both got what they deserved
All knees being equal
We should just call it even
Except one man is forever sleeping .
Where's the outrage? I don't see the president tweeting
He talks about the invisible enemy,
when this is so plain to see
Looks like the more visible the problem is
The louder your silence will be
It's not about this one
Knee, arm, bullet or gun
Systemic racism, intentional or not
Is a weapon of mass destruction
Oxygen is a God given right to all,
but it seems to me
That with their last breath, too many say
I can't brea....
🎦 👩🏾💻 @_rrells you are the best!!
while filming this 4 cop cars came by... one stopped to ask questions. thank you officer for treating me like a human being, with respect . @empowermen.nyc
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COMPARISON: THE THIEF OF JOY
Comparison is an aspect of human experience which has become more universally experienced through the up rise of social media usage. Comparison can arise through the act of comparing what one is experiencing to what another is capable of producing within their life, it arises through comparing how successful another person is, what body another has and various other forms that it can arise through.
When we compare ourselves to another, we dim our own light and consequentially put another on a pedestal, this is something i am very familiar with.
An aspect i have been putting a lot of concious effort into dissolving within my own development.
When we look beyond the physical form of the people/experiences we compare to and uncover the qualities which are behind the physical actions there is the opportunity for an integration of these qualities we currently do not embody.
Any quality that you see within another is a quality you too can bring into your life:
Abundance, Creativity, Determination, Love, Success, Wealth, Wisdom.
When we look to another in the space of comparison or idolization, if we create space between that comparative state and sit in a place of contemplation of how we can bring those qualities that this other being offers to us, there lies an ample opportunity for the cultivation of the qualities which are the predecessors to that physical experience being possible.
We realize that we are all unique individuals and through our individuality arises qualities which we can offer to each other. One way this can be done is through devotional practice. The devotional practices of the East are created as a means of bridging those higher qualities of the Deities upon which the practice is fixated upon, by that devotional focus to the individual by nature of the action those qualities start to become more illuminescent within.These are just some of the deities and qualities that exist that offer us the cultivation of these universal qualities.
The qualities of the Buddha (Contemplation, Stillness, Wisdom)
The qualities of Christ (Compassion, Love, Truth)
The qualities of Hanuman (Determination, Service to others, Strenghth)
👏🏼YOU. ARE. NOT. FOR. EVERYONE!⠀
“If your message isn’t strong enough to repel people, it’s not going to be strong enough to attract the right people. “⠀— @marieewold said this and DAMN, this is so true. ⠀
🌈Time to confess (not really, if you know me then this is absolutely 0% a surprise): I am a people pleaser. I would consider myself currently trying to rehab myself from it, but there is oh-so-much work left to do in this area of my life. ⠀
✨For years, I’ve always been asking myself how I can tame the fire inside of me so as not to make anyone too uncomfortable, or come off too bright or too intense. ⠀
☀️But inside (and on the outside when I feel safe), I am fiery 🔥 I have many opinions. I’ve been told a time or twelve (hundred) that I am “too loud” or “extra.” I’ve been called a bitch. I’ve had people judge me for speaking up or sharing what I want to share.⠀
⚡️So I tried to tame myself, not realizing that even if I want to make myself vanilla, there’s always going to be someone who hates vanilla 🍦 funny enough, the person who hates vanilla is ME.⠀
✨I always gravitate toward people who are raw, open, vulnerable, unafraid and unashamed (or afraid and shamed and do it anyway), never satisfied to stop learning and growing. Those are my people. That is the kind of person I aim to be, and yet I tried to extinguish it for so many years in the effort of being palatable, of pleasing others before myself.⠀
🧚🏻So, instead of feeling like a big giant loser when someone is repelled by you and your message, maybe instead it’s a blessing. Because repelling someone means that you are INDIVIDUAL enough, PASSIONATE enough, UNIQUE enough to stand in your own space that not everyone can handle. ⠀
💖And that is a whole lot more powerful than people pleasing, if you ask me.⠀ .
My brother @jemstarrbootz & I cooked up a feast for you. A feast of nourishing music. A mixture of entertainment, energy, encouragement, wisdom, poetry, frustration & peace. Timeless music to help you keep moving forward in challenging times & assist in easing any anxiety or pain. This is an excerpt from the song “365” feat. The Bar10der
Life is Worth Living: Strength and Courage to HEAL, Plus Thrive with Confidence
Bonafide life coach Crystal Murray shares her candid ever-evolving path to building confidence on this episode of She’s A Genius. Crystal walks us through what “confidence as a journey” means to her.
In this conversation we talk about how to cope and the heal after the death of a love one.
Crystal exemplifies her strength by being transparent about her experience with overcoming depression, unashamedly using the healthy resource of counseling and recognizing life is worth living.
The resounding Genius Gems she highlights are, ‘the power of prayer’; 'answering each “call” ; and unequivocal difference between ‘existing’ versus ‘thriving’ in life. Crystal tells us all about how she's helping others fulfill their dream to become certified life coaches too.
Connect with Crystal Murray @crystamurr lifeworthlivinginternational.com
Since the closure of our physical office spaces in March, the BAC team has been hard at work preparing for our eagerly awaited reopening... and it's finally here! Our team (Mat Man included) is so excited to welcome our BAC family back to the gym! Please see our latest blog post (link in bio) for answers to many of your questions surrounding what our reopening may look like or to request in-clinic appointments. We can't wait to see you! 😃
Emotional stress can be compared to an actual life-threatening event. Your body pretty much going through a very similar physiological response. Try to remember any life-threatening events from your life, and how you felt at the moment. Now, imagine feeling like that every time you feel stressed. Your body doesn’t really know the difference, and reacts very similar as it would be a life-threatening event.
We all have built-in “fight-or-flight” in response to the threat. Sometimes we might feel more alert and prepared when we are in a hypervigilant state and it’s hard to let it just go! In hypervigilant state, cortisol and stress hormones release sugar, pupils are dilated, heart racing, blood-sugar levels increase, you might start grasping for air, feel jittery, and feel sweaty.
It is important to recognize early signs and act before your body dive in deep into hypervigilance!
Allow yourself to relax! Meditate, take a walk outside, ride a bicycle, listen to music, take 5 minutes to practice breathing, call a friend, simply do something and enjoy the moment! #mentalhealth#mental#presentmoment#enjoythemoment#therapy#fightorflight#mindfulness#mindful#mindfulliving#therapeutic#stress
“The key thing to understand is that self-actualisation is a process rather than an end goal. You’re never going to tick if off your list or finish this work - it represents deep personal growth and continual renewal. One way to think about it is the analogy of ‘peeling the onion’. Right in the centre of that onion is who you ready are but it can take a lifetime of peeling away the many layers to reach that version of yourself”. To read the full blog post click on link in bio 🧐
This post shows an example of how thinking errors ultimately change the way we feel and act upon a situation. We may be susceptible to getting caught in the negative thinking pattern (left) if we are already experiencing anxiety or low self-esteem. This is why it is important to recognize when our thoughts are distorted and question them until this way of self-regulating becomes automatic for us .
These thoughts, feelings, and behaviours are examples used for psychoeducational purposes only. The *situation* here can lead to various types of negative thinking patterns. Humans are complex and no one person reacts exactly the same.
Note: I am offering a free workshop in collaboration with Sahar (@saharmandi_comm - Harvard trained communications consultant) that teaches some incredible tips on how to speak with confidence and feel valued for what you bring to the table (check link in bio). This is great for those of you who want to be more assertive and confident when speaking in front of your colleagues. The workshop is on June 1 at 12 PM PST/ 3PM EST, but if you are unable to make that time, you can still register and receive the recording to watch later. This is completely free - all you have to do is register (link in my bio) and confirm your seat! ♥️ With love, Nawal .
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Teenage therapy session!🌈🌤️🌼 Sorry for not postin on eight days 😔
This is therapy !! & If this ain’t the truth !! .
Going to counseling will help you to take all those clouded, negative thoughts and turn them into positives. Therapy is all Y O U !! You learn your coping skills, you learn how you want to be loved, you learn your boundaries.. a therapy is just there to guide you, to help you dissect thoughts in a way you never have thought of before - we guide you to a new perspective. .
According to Psychology Today, here are just a FEW of the COPIOUS amounts of benefits of seeking services: .
• improved communication and interpersonal skills. • greater self-acceptance and self-esteem. • ability to change self-defeating behaviors/habits. • better expression and management of emotions, including anger. • relief from depression, anxiety or other mental health conditions. • increased confidence and decision-making skills. • ability to manage stress effectively. • improved problem-solving and conflict resolution abilities. • you feel EMPOWERED !! .
🗣 if you’re currently in counseling, what are some things you’ve gained from your therapist ?? Drop em in the comments !! 🗣 .
16 49027 May, 2020
Parentification happens when our parents take on the typical child role in the family, relying on the kids to take the role of the parent.
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It was a long and hard fight: proving my worthiness to be heard, seen, liked and loved. I get to stop at a pace that’s right for me❤️
Photo and caption by @annecarly.mm