What does authenticity mean to you?
Authenticity is what it feels like when you can bring your whole self to work - when your behaviors truly match your intentions.
Being authentic in the workplace is proven to increase employee engagement, satisfaction, and leads to better overall health (inside and outside of work).
And this is why authenticity is such a hot topic today.
But here is the thing. I can't even count the number of times I've had to downplay myself, be inauthentic, and been straight up told to change my behavior to fit into workplace environments. Especially working in the predominately white male culture of STEM.
So although I want to show up as my authentic self each day, I'm constantly conflicted with the how and when. How do I act as me and when is the best time to do it?
There sadly is no easy answer to these questions. Society is set up to judge and lead with gender norms and racial stereotypes. But through much reflection and a strong stance that "I am amazing and should be allowed to be me at work", I've started to overcome my doubt and step into my authentic self.
And this is what I want for you. So stick with me this week and lets talk authenticity. I'll give you tips and advice and we will share our stories.
So lets start with a this...Give me a 🙌🏽 if you've ever had to downplay yourself to fit in at work.
Seorang kawan nyeletuk
"Lu cocok di sini tik, sepi. Lu ga cocok di kota"
Seketika, ucapan itu langsung memutar roda memori pada tahun-tahun sebelumnya.
Pengalaman yang memang jauh dari ramai. Tapi begitu hidup. Dekat dengan mereka yang hidup penuh 'kecukupan'. Dekat dengan alam, bahkan dengan dua ekor anjing penjaga rumah ini. Tanpa listrik dan sinyal.
Benar kata kawan itu.
Bagi saya, kota yang sesak ramai bukan rumah.
Well, spring training has started for the KC Royals but that is not the reason I chose today’s Monday Mindset.
We all have strikes in our lives and too often we may look at those as something closer to an *out* instead of just an opportunity to get us closer to our *home run*
Keep Swinging!!! ⚾️
The Desperate Need for Marriages in Our Culture (Even if it is Crumb Marriages) has made being Whole and refusing to settle to be Considered an Abnormality.
They talk and look at you with a Strange eye, like something is wrong with you.
Like wanting a healthy Love,Relationship and Marriage is asking for Far too much.
You hear them say “ NO ONE IS PERFECT " as a Guilty Trap to Convince you to Settle for Crumbs instead of the Whole Loaf.
who said we looking for a Perfect Person?
There is no honor in Settling for Toxic Company.Self Love ,Births Healthy Love.
One thing Mooch & Mel realized (after years and years) wasn’t working?
Spending hours at the gym to work off whatever they ate.
We don’t have to deprive ourselves or feel guilt, shame or fear around eating. We are literally designed to eat for fuel and energy. And when we workout we don’t need a gold star or a “reward” in the form of a “bad food” choice. We don’t have to earn our food or use workouts to burn off the choices we made. Our workouts are to care for our bodies, to strengthen, relieve stress, move our bodies and have some fun.
Here’s a quick (and effective) one to give a whirl combining some of the MOVE.rs favorite exercises.
15 tricep pushups
15 sumo squats
15 around the world curls
50 mountain climbers
60 second wall sit
Repeat 2-4 times
What’s your favorite exercise?
Why do you say you want your life to look one way but then act in a completely different way?
It's because your subconscious cares more about meeting basic, innate human needs of yours before fulfilling your personal values.
Comment "6 needs" below and I'll send you the full explanation of the forces that are guiding your behaviors in every moment of every day.
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Please 🙏 try to gain your force and enlarge your vision with this quote. No matter what happens or when it hurts, just observe and keep moving forward. Life is trying to teach you something.
We are all one. Only Egos, Beliefs and Fears separate us. .
Personal freedom comes from mastering oneself. .
To master oneself is to reconnect with the way you were conditioned to be. .
We are taught to give so much focus on “being” for others. We develop worries and anxiety because of feeling emotions such as shame, embarrassment, guilt etc - the brain simply wants to protect you, so develops the worries as a way of coping with what you might feel. Remember the mind is in conflict with pain and pleasure - it does not want to feel pain as it’s focus is to survive! ... When we give so much of our thoughts to others we become what we think they require us to be. We disconnect from our true self, forgetting the bigger picture and tunnelling into the fear of feeling an emotion. .
. @bobmarley “emancipate yourself from mental slavery; none but ourselves can free our minds” .
My passion is to help people to reconnect with who they are, to feel grounded, to feel free, to feel they can manage their emotions, to develop confidence and value for who they are, to feel they are at peace with who they are. .
I’m currently opening up a group for individuals wishing to want to join a journey of self discovery. If you’re interested dm me and I will send you details. .
You don’t need to love from fear any longer! .
Ever since the release of my new book - Perspective - I've come across a number of people - that have read it - ask me why I still work in corporate. Why am I not a CEO of my own business, stacking up millions? 🙋🏾♂️🤷🏽♂️🤷🏾♀️💷💴💰 This is how I choose to look at it:
The Black African demographic makes up approximately 70+% of the national population.
About 50+% of this demographic is employed (permanent &/or contract), leaving approximately 30+% without work and income.
Of the approximate 60% that is earning an income, a significant portion is struggling to keep up with their monthly financial commitments & are either underinsured or not able to service their insurance premiums.
This means that a majority of income earning (Black) South Africans do not have alternative income should they get retrenched, disabled, contract a severe illness or, God-Forbid, pass away.
Most of us also do not have Investment mechanisms we contribute towards such as Unit Trusts, 5 year Investment Plans & Retirement Annuities.
Regardless of which political party occupies the most no of seats in parliament, the vast majority of us still relies on ordinary South Africans for our livelihood. I - as an Insurance Professional - rely on doctors, teachers, lawyers, civil service practitioners to make a living. They too rely on my experience & knowledge to plan and execute their wealth goals.
Which is more prudent?: A quick million or an established chain of value that can be sustained over the generations to come?
Perhaps, many of us would naturally be multi millionaires if our predecessors had a similar mentality.
FIND NEW OPTIONS.
Your mind is just like your other muscle parts, sometimes its really need some exercises to be upgrade with new options, like you workout in the gym for upgrade your strength.but its not easy to do it like you upgrading you computer or phone. upgrading your mindset is a
carefully orchestrated process , not a one-time event like pressing a button.
Every process you follow goes through certain
process stages , and upgrading your mindset is no different in this regard. You have respect the stages and avoid skipping them.
First,You must become more aware of your feelings, thoughts, reactions to stimuli from your environment, and you must know how all these things are interconnected with your mind. Now you get clear picture of what kind upgrade you need and you start pushing yourself and understanding what is going on with you and why.
Second, you will slowly start updating your mind with more positive and superb thoughts, you will feel thousands of thought in same time and difficult to pick right one. You will start tasting failure in this stage. The biggest mistake people doing in this stage is giving up. And that make them life long failures.
Third, your new superb thoughts become viral and eat up all the rest of average thinking.and this is the point you don't have more struggles to update yourself, and everything will come to as quite natural.When you reach this stage, there is no way of going back anymore and you become so aware of different mindsets.
Nost of people want to get instant success.
No such thing on earth!
LEARN before Earn is a universal law. All succesful people in the world are great learners.
To succeed in life and business, what is the most important knowledge?
There are : • HARD SKILL
• SOFT SKILL • SUPER SOFT SKILL.
Most of people only focus on Hard Skill : how to produce, how to sell, how to speak, how to close, how to how to how to...
Is Hard Skill important? Yes, sure. But holding Hard Skill does not make someone automatically grow in Soft Skill and Super Soft Skill.
Therefor, it is not they main key point to achieve success in life.
You must grow and transform in *Soft Skill (subconscious) & Super Soft Skill (heart)* to succeed in Life & Business • Release the INVISIBLE BURDEN, • Unleash the INVISIBLE PARTNER.
Grow your Soft Skill and Super Soft Skil, it will lead you to master Hard Skill.
What make these people around the world come to Jakarta to attend the *Value Your Life - a Life Changing Bootcamp?* .
Find out 👇 .
VALUE YOUR LIFE
📅 Tuesday, Feb 25, 2020
⏰ 7.30pm (gmt +7)
What the event is about ?
Sharing by people that have experienced Life Transformation, what the challenges, how they processed it and how they maintain it.
It will cover many life aspects : • Enrich & Heal marriage realtionship • Enrich & Heal the relationship parents - children • How to raise millenial child
• Grow business & job performance • Release addiction • Release hatred / traumatic experience • etc
Register for LIVE STREAMING LINK
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Have a Great Day
❤️ De Dragobete....❤️ Relatia de cuplu este una dintre cele mai bune metode de dezvoltare personala datorita faptului ca ne expune zilnic la mici parti de umbra personala si in acelasi timp trebuie intr-un fel sa picam de acord cu partenerul nostru pentru a putea convietui.
OPINIONS... everyone has one ✌🏻
Everyone is certainly entitled to one and their opinions won’t always be the same as yours. Some accounts on here have stated some opinions that I 100% do not agree with and in that case, I will often either unfollow or at least mute that account as they are entitled to their option as I am to mine, neither of us is right or wrong. .
Don’t be afraid of unfollowing or muting accounts that you don’t really want to be following. This is YOUR feed, YOUR space. Don’t let someone else tell you what you should or shouldn’t post. What you should or shouldn’t agree with and what you should love or love to hate. .
Screw the bandwagons, screw the cliques, screw the trends.
You do you. Like ACTUALLY do you. Be bold, be true to yourself and don’t let anyone tell you how or what to think / feel / value / support / slate / OR how to live your damn life! .
Hold your values close to your heart and do be afraid to ruffle a few feathers and unfollow / mute some people if you want to. (Hate following someone is literally the worst)
Amazing graphic from @naomitalknyc
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Don't let uncontrolled emotions get in your way and hold you back from swapping your current life line for the one you actually want to follow.
Im kinda really insecure about a lot of things right now. It’s been a battle not believing the internal dialogue saying there is something inherently + deeply wrong with me...that I am: awkward in the space I take up, stupid, a fool, not worth boundaries or the same respect I work so hard to give everyone else. The thought that... No matter how honest I believe myself to be, maybe I’m still trying to believe lies I tell myself.
Another thing right now that takes up WAY more internal space than is typical for me... My body is different than it’s ever been and though I’ve never been one to tie my value or others’ value to our body shape or weight or look, it is currently a challenge for me to stand naked in front of the mirror. This is more of a reflection of how I see my heart than anything...but I have been thinking lately about the messages we receive/send about bodies. Whether directly or indirectly, I have been told since I was young that the female body is: Sexual, The End. And if it’s not sexy, then it is a joke. Sexy isn’t bad but it isn’t everything, and also...sexy is more of an attitude + confidence than any shape — I believe this as I do boudoir photoshoots for every kind of body & GENUINELY see beauty every time. Which means I know this is actually a self-love vs self-loathe thing in regards to my mind + soul.
My friend Joh today: “Stop talking like that, your boys can hear you.” I realized I was doing what is done to me...indirectly telling them that my body doesn’t fit into some box — somehow for some shallow reason isn’t as beautiful as it can be. 😭💔. Lord.
I want to instill in these boys how valuable every damn human is, no. matter. what.
Our words matter & more than that, how we see ourself matters. How we see others matter. I gotta get back to Being Still, knowing myself, knowing Him, + knowing my worth. It really is in the being still + knowing Him that I begin to know myself and my worth...and therefore every passing human’s worth. I can’t teach them to value + love everyone else if I can’t even love myself... so here’s to another dive into learning what it means to love the soul + shell I was gifted.