#UnshakeableMe Challenge No. 21: Manifesting my best life. Earlier this year, I participated in a Create Your Dream Life vision board workshop facilitated by @lisakelly.life. The focal image I centred the board around was of a woman walking through fire, scarlet-amber embers floating up in the air around her. It was a metaphor for my year. In many ways, I felt like a phoenix rising from the ashes of the life that died with Gabe, and redesigning a new one in the light of those embers. A life of moments, experiences and opportunities seized. And since I’d promised myself that I’d never again settle for anything less than magic in love, well, there was a sprinkle of that in there as well. Everything each image in that board represented has come into my life or is in the seedling stage of manifestation. I recently lamented that the only thing I hadn’t yet achieved was to write a book. Until a wise friend showed me a different perspective when they said: “Oh, but you ARE writing a book – every day, with every insightful post you make. You simply haven’t structured it into book form yet.” Before designing my 2020 board, I consulted that first one. And I saw how completely my life, my perspective and sense of self has transformed. Instead of rising from the ashes of my old life, in 2020, I want to BE the fire. Instead of pursuing magic, I want to remind myself that I AM magic. That I create it. And the man who can hold that, celebrate that, share that? Well, he will be the one I sit by the fire with. I want to set my life on fire – and surround myself only with the people who fan the flames instead of dousing them. My life already includes so many like this – and every unique experience I’ve chased, cultivated or connected to in 2019 has only brought more of them into my orbit. I want to be brave and bold in my pursuit of the things that set my soul on fire. I have some goals in this area: To write that book, give a TED Talk, start a podcast. I also want to continue to chase music festivals all over the world, take a solo journey to some far-flung place, learn to surf, and set my fitness on fire. 2020, I'm ready for you. The real question is: Are you ready for me?